The Psychopath: Truly and Fundamentally Different
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The truth can be difficult to understand from our own frame of reference.
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Liminality, the Unsettling Space of In-Between
Liminality, the Unsettling Space of In-Between Read More »
After our experience in a psychopathic bond, we are shaken to our core. The firm foundation we believed we stood on crumbled beneath us. We find ourselves in a liminal place — a place of ‘in-between.’
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Thoughts On the ‘Self’ in Psychopaths and Narcissists: Guest Post
Thoughts On the ‘Self’ in Psychopaths and Narcissists: Guest Post Read More »
As I give it further thought, narcissists and psychopaths, in essence, can never really be self aware because they don’t have a Self to become aware of.
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Are You Contemplating Ending Your Life?
Are You Contemplating Ending Your Life? Read More »
You are not alone. Many of us have had thoughts and feelings that at one time felt unbearable. There are people who care that will help you get through this.
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Falling Into a Parallel Universe
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Psychopathy is the best-kept secret. Yet it’s also a wildly popular subject that intrigues a lot of people. Psychopathic characters pop up everywhere in movies, books, and TV — yet we hear close to nothing about psychopaths in personal, one-on-one relationships.
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Do You Make This Simple (But Dangerous) Mistake About the Psychopathic Mind?
Do You Make This Simple (But Dangerous) Mistake About the Psychopathic Mind? Read More »
We automatically assume that others are just like we are when it comes to the fundamental aspects of our characters, such as having a conscience. That can be a dangerous mistake.
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The Missing Piece in the Puzzle of Psychopathy
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As I read all I could find about psychopathy, I found something was missing. A key piece of the puzzle seemed consistently absent. I wasn’t sure how much this missing piece even mattered, but it seemed important enough to ponder and search for, and finally to come up with a possibility of my own.
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The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed
The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed Read More »
We’ve learned there are many things that leave us vulnerable to predatory manipulators. But no discussion of what may make us vulnerable is complete without revealing one vulnerability we all have, but that remains hidden from us.
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Got Boundaries? Part Five: Important Points and a Wrap-Up
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When dealing with covert manipulators, it won’t always be obvious that our boundaries are being tested, pushed, and violated. What better way is there, after all, to obliterate a boundary than to use subtle influence to make someone think it was their own decision?
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Got Boundaries? Part Four: Can Boundaries Protect You?
Got Boundaries? Part Four: Can Boundaries Protect You? Read More »
Can boundaries protect you from a manipulator? Only if you defend them. If you don’t, they’re useless.
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Book Review: The Other Side of Charm: Your Memoir, by H.G. Beverly
Book Review: The Other Side of Charm: Your Memoir, by H.G. Beverly Read More »
I’ve read many books on the subject of psychopathic abuse, but none even comes close to exposing the diabolical minds of these predators or the harm suffered by their victims to the degree this book does.
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Got Boundaries? Part Three: You Did NOT ‘Participate’ in Your Own Exploitation
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The problem isn’t your beliefs or your cognitive biases or your vulnerabilities — the problem is that there are predators who are skilled manipulators.
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Psychopaths are Not Supernatural Beings With Superpowers
Psychopaths are Not Supernatural Beings With Superpowers Read More »
It seemed at the time that I had been involved with a magician, or the devil himself. How else could he have done what he did?
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Got Boundaries? Part Two: How Boundaries Protect You, and a List of Examples of Boundaries
While we do psychological cartwheels trying to keep it together or fix it or figure it out, they just sit back and enjoy the show, which is the result of their undercover handiwork.
Got Boundaries? Part One: What They Are and Why You Need Them
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Without a sense of our true worth, we see the skewed image of ourselves reflected in the eyes of those to whom we give our power, and we mistake it for the truth.
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The Stranger Across the Kitchen Table
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One day the psychopath I was involved with smiled broadly and said, “We get along great for two strangers, don’t we?” Strangers? I felt as if I’d been punched in the gut.
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Post-Traumatic Growth
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You may feel at this point that your ordeal was too terrible to ever recover from, and that going even further to experience positive growth from it is out of the question. I know all too well what it’s like to feel that way. But post-traumatic growth is possible.
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Your Journey is the Hero’s Journey
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While you maneuver that unpredictable jungle of memories, realizations, and emotions, it is your spirit that you face head on, and you may be astounded by what you find: A hero.
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Soul Mates and Psychopaths
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“Soul mates.” Those are the words victims use to describe the seemingly magical connection they felt in the beginning of a relationship with a psychopath.
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Feelings of Loss and Grief After the Psychopath is Gone
Feelings of Loss and Grief After the Psychopath is Gone Read More »
Part of that trauma — and one that takes some victims by surprise — are feelings of profound loss and deep grief. This may not happen right away. But as things start to resolve and it becomes more quiet inside, grief is often what’s left standing, waiting for your attention.
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Advice for Dealing with a Violent Ex
Advice for Dealing with a Violent Ex Read More »
I got a comment from a terrified reader with a violent ex who didn’t know where to turn.
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Psychopaths and Love, the Book, is Now Available
Psychopaths and Love, the Book, is Now Available Read More »
“If you have been the victim of a psychopath or you think you may be the next target of a psychopath, this book lays it all out for you. It is short, succinct, and gets right to the core of the predator.” J. Hunter
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The Mask of the Psychopath
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The mask a psychopath wears is only a superficial disguise, held in place by lies and manipulation. When we find out the truth — they were never who or what we believed them to be — the feelings of betrayal are overwhelming.
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How to Avoid a Relationship with a Psychopath
How to Avoid a Relationship with a Psychopath Read More »
Even though none of us wanted this for ourselves, it is exactly what happened. How can this be? How can we prevent it from happening again?
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More Awe and Beauty
More Awe and Beauty Read More »
More awe and beauty to remind you that life is much more than what you can see right now. This may resonate with you in an unexpected way.
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Let’s Take a Break for Beauty
Let’s Take a Break for Beauty Read More »
Put aside all the ugliness for just 5 minutes, and instead witness a glimpse of the inexplicable beauty of life. There is just something about this video that captures it so well, at least for me. I hope it does for you, too.
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How Can You Distinguish Real Love From Victimization by a Psychopath?
How Can You Distinguish Real Love From Victimization by a Psychopath? Read More »
I’ve been asked the same question several times by people who read Red Flags of a Psychopath on this website: “This sounds like a description of a couple falling deeply in love. How is it different? How can I tell if it’s happening to me?”
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“I Am Fishead,” A Documentary About Psychopathy
“I Am Fishead,” A Documentary About Psychopathy Read More »
It is a well-known fact that our society is structured like a pyramid. The very few people at the top create conditions for the majority below. Who are these people? Can we blame them for the problems our society faces today? What we found out is that people at the top are more likely to be psychopaths than the rest of us.
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Psychopaths are Not Cowards (It’s Much Worse Than that)
Psychopaths are Not Cowards (It’s Much Worse Than that) Read More »
Psychopaths aren’t cowards; they’re just hungry. It’s as simple as that.
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How to Trust Again After a Relationship with a Psychopath
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After learning the shocking truth – that you were targeted and victimized by a dangerous manipulator – you might make up your mind to never trust again. But if that’s your plan, think twice.
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Charm and the Psychopath
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The psychopath’s charm is the focus of a predator on his prey, adorned with a smile. Literally.
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Freedom From the Psychopath
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One day, the psychopath will no longer have any power over you. He will “fall and sink in ruins” when you realize he never really stood strong, that it was all deception.
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Traits of the Psychopath’s Victim
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There are certain traits we may have that make us more likely to be victimized by psychopaths. This in no way suggests a victim is to blame — the predator is clearly the one to blame.
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How to Tell if You’re Being Manipulated
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Emotional manipulation can be so subtle and undercover that it can control you for quite a while before you figure out what’s happening, if you ever do. Learn how.
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Vulnerability and the Psychopath
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Psychopaths have an uncanny ability to look at a you and tell if you’re a potential victim, one who will easily succumb to their mind games and provide them with what they need.
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Psychopaths Use Trance and Hypnosis to Get and Keep Victims
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When a psychopath targets a victim, he lures her in a highly hypnotic way (along with using many other tactics of covert manipulation) to gain emotional control and then to keep it throughout the relationship.
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The Three Most Powerful Words Should Never Be a Lie
The Three Most Powerful Words Should Never Be a Lie Read More »
In the case of the psychopath, “I love you” is always a lie because they aren’t capable of love. They use these words as a means to their own ends because they know the enormous power those words have over those of us who are capable of love.
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How to Help a Friend Victimized by a Psychopath
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How can you help a friend who was victimized by a psychopath or going through any hard time in their life? By having empathy. Judging someone’s feelings, finding them to be invalid and then withholding support, is the opposite of empathy.
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Faith That You Will Heal is the Key to Healing
Faith That You Will Heal is the Key to Healing Read More »
In your darkest hours, you may wonder if you will ever heal from something as awful as what you have been through, having been the victim of a psychopath. Where do you go from here?
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