MALIGNANT NARCISSISM: Even Worse Than It Sounds
A malignant narcissist is like taking a psychopath, a narcissist, and a hostile, paranoid sadist, and rolling them all into one.
Characteristics of psychopathy
All the World’s a Stage… To a Psychopath
I doubted my perceptions and dismissed them. I dismissed the times when something he said seemed rehearsed, like he had said the very same thing many times before.
I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!
Beware the unsolicited promise, which is often a warning sign of impending victimization that should never be ignored or believed.
A Grin Without a Cat
Alice’s trip into Wonderland would become curioser and curioser… just like our own trip into the reality-distortion field of the psychopath, a real-life Cheshire Cat with nothing at all behind his grin.
Objectification and Dehumanization in Abusive Relationships
When we are seen as an object, we aren’t considered a separate, whole, real and meaningful person with our own thoughts, feelings and perceptions. We are simply an object with no meaning except to gratify desires.
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It’s Not You, It’s Me and My Hyper-Reactive Dopaminergic Reward System
I didn’t know it at the time, but my ‘soul mate’ was jonesing for some dopamine. The search for an intense dopamine high drives the psychopath’s ever-repeating cycle of idealize, devalue, discard.
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Genuine Attraction, Manipulation or Something More? Dr. Rhonda Freeman Explains
When psychopaths pursue a target, are they motivated by genuine attraction, the desire to manipulate or something more?Neuropsychologist Rhonda Freeman, PhD, explains.
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The Wizards of Id
It’s all about the id, the ego and the superego. Psychopaths, you see, are The Wizards of Id.
Psychopaths Are Boring. We Are Fascinating.
Psychopaths are boring. We are fascinating. How do we know this is true? 10 things they do make it obvious.
Psychopathy: Is It In Their Eyes?
Do a psychopath’s eyes give them away? Are they a reliable sign we can use to identify and avoid them?
11 Places Psychopaths Hunt
When psychopaths see an opportunity, they go for it. Since they’re opportunists, you can be targeted by one of them anywhere. But some places do present a higher risk than others.
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Slip this unique high-tech, handcrafted ring onto your finger, and it begins to work. Perpetual motion design makes batteries obsolete. The only thing you need to do in addition to wearing the ring is to keep the instructions in mind at all times.
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Down the Rabbit Hole
You fell down the rabbit hole. It never crossed your mind to question the things too good to be true, the things beyond imagination, the strange things. Why would you? They weren’t strange on that side of the looking glass — they were just part of the wonder of it all.
The Holy Grail of the Psychopath
We have the capacity to heal and live fully again. Psychopaths are stuck in their empty void forever.
The Game You Didn’t Know You Were Playing
When targeted by a psychopath,
we unwittingly become an opponent in a game we don’t even know we’re playing. The stakes are high and the odds are stacked in their favor. They make the rules, and play to win.
Convicted, Diagnosed and Institutionalized? Not Enough To Stop a Psychopath
Imagine you’re working in a maximum security psychiatric hospital that houses sexually motivated predatory stalkers who are in the Sexually Violent Predator Program. Most are diagnosed psychopaths.This would be enough to keep you and your coworkers from being manipulated, seduced, and victimized… right?
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What Zombies Can Teach Us About Psychopaths
Nothing matters to psychopaths. Nothing has any inherent meaning, value, or worth to them. They live in a world of meaningless inanimate objects they care nothing about. Self-gratification is their only goal. That also describes zombies.
Face the Truth — What Can You Tell Just By Looking at Someone?
Can you tell who’s trustworthy or not, who’s a criminal, and who’s a narcissist or psychopath just by looking at someone’s face? Surprisingly, the answer may be “yes.”
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Is There a “Psycho” In a Psychopath?
It is said that psychopaths aren’t insane, because they have an absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking. Is this correct? Something about it doesn’t seem quite right.
Narcissist or Psychopath? What You Need To Know
Both are incredibly destructive to those unfortunate enough to become involved with them — but their thought processes, motivations, and intentions are as different as night and day.
Identifying a Psychopath: 20 Subtle and Hidden Signs
Psychopaths keep their true nature hidden. Learn 20 subtle signs that just might give them away.
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Hocus-Pocus: It’s All In the Focus
Our own focus narrows, and we become oblivious to the world around us. Our sense of time is altered. Minutes seem like hours or hours seem like minutes. We are in a trance.
The Nemesis of the Psychopath: BOREDOM
The thought of a bored psychopath is kind of scary. And yet the thought of a psychopath who isn’t bored is kind of scary, too. Seriously, though, psychopaths have a real problem with boredom. It hounds them continually, like the meaningless and destructive drive of an addiction.
Shiny Objects: A Deeper Look at Idealization and Devaluation
For a psychopath, to know you is to hate you. You didn’t really do anything wrong (although he wants you to think you did). Likewise, you weren’t idealized for anything you truly were, only for what the psychopath imagined you to be. But you are a real person, not a product of the psychopath’s imagination.
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In The Matrix of the Psychopath
The psychopath came along and fulfilled our desires by creating an illusory world of love, in order to enslave us and feed on us. We were existing in a matrix that the psychopath created, and we didn’t know it.
What Ebola Can Teach Us About Psychopaths
We start to realize that something strange is happening beneath the surface, but we can’t pull back. Love keeps us in the hot zone.
A Hidden Fact of Psychopaths: They Have No Gender
One kind of person who will surely not identify in a fixed way with anything about themselves is the psychopath. So why would they identify with a gender?
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The Truth About Female Psychopaths, From Those Who Know
Behind the mask, female psychopaths are manipulative, cold-hearted, and lacking empathy, just like their male counterparts. Men who were once involved with psychopathic females tell their heartbreaking stories here.
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Psychopathic Seduction Secrets, Revealed!
Why is the seduction of the psychopath so powerful? Because it is the art of the con wrapped in the beautiful illusion of love.
Walking Through the Shadow of the Uncanny Valley
The psychopath I was involved with sometimes made strange and disturbing facial expressions. These faces struck me as being uncanny, meaning they were both familiar yet alien at the same time.
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The Big List of Psychopathy Characteristics, Part 3
47 behavioral characteristics (attitudes and actions) of the psychopath.
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The Big List of Psychopathy Characteristics, Part 2
The characteristics of psychopathy are divided into three groups: Cognitive (thought), affective (emotion), and behavior (actions). This list includes affective (emotional) characteristics of psychopathy. Again, these are things the psychopath tries to hide.
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The Big List of Psychopathy Characteristics, Part One
This post covers the characteristics of how a psychopath thinks. These traits aren’t visible at first, but will be revealed over time as you notice incongruities between his persona and who he really seems to be. The mask always cracks sooner or later.
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Spaceship Moments: Psychopaths Say the Darndest Things
There were so many strange things he said. Out of place. Out of context. Out of the blue. I had come to think of them as “Spaceship Moments.”
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The Psychopath: Truly and Fundamentally Different
The truth can be difficult to understand from our own frame of reference.
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Thoughts On the ‘Self’ in Psychopaths and Narcissists: Guest Post
As I give it further thought, narcissists and psychopaths, in essence, can never really be self aware because they don’t have a Self to become aware of.
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Do You Make This Simple (But Dangerous) Mistake About the Psychopathic Mind?
We automatically assume that others are just like we are when it comes to the fundamental aspects of our characters, such as having a conscience. That can be a dangerous mistake.
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The Missing Piece in the Puzzle of Psychopathy
As I read all I could find about psychopathy, I found something was missing. A key piece of the puzzle seemed consistently absent. I wasn’t sure how much this missing piece even mattered, but it seemed important enough to ponder and search for, and finally to come up with a possibility of my own.
Psychopaths are Not Supernatural Beings With Superpowers
It seemed at the time that I had been involved with a magician, or the devil himself. How else could he have done what he did?
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The Stranger Across the Kitchen Table
One day the psychopath I was involved with smiled broadly and said, “We get along great for two strangers, don’t we?” Strangers? I felt as if I’d been punched in the gut.
Soul Mates and Psychopaths
“Soul mates.” Those are the words victims use to describe the seemingly magical connection they felt in the beginning of a relationship with a psychopath.
The Mask of the Psychopath
The mask a psychopath wears is only a superficial disguise, held in place by lies and manipulation. When we find out the truth — they were never who or what we believed them to be — the feelings of betrayal are overwhelming.
How Can You Distinguish Real Love From Victimization by a Psychopath?
I’ve been asked the same question several times by people who read Red Flags of a Psychopath on this website: “This sounds like a description of a couple falling deeply in love. How is it different? How can I tell if it’s happening to me?”
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“I Am Fishead,” A Documentary About Psychopathy
It is a well-known fact that our society is structured like a pyramid. The very few people at the top create conditions for the majority below. Who are these people? Can we blame them for the problems our society faces today? What we found out is that people at the top are more likely to be psychopaths than the rest of us.
Psychopaths are Not Cowards (It’s Much Worse Than that)
Psychopaths aren’t cowards; they’re just hungry. It’s as simple as that.
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Charm and the Psychopath
The psychopath’s charm is the focus of a predator on his prey, adorned with a smile. Literally.
Psychopaths Use Trance and Hypnosis to Get and Keep Victims
When a psychopath targets a victim, he lures her in a highly hypnotic way (along with using many other tactics of covert manipulation) to gain emotional control and then to keep it throughout the relationship.
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