A malignant narcissist is like taking a psychopath, a narcissist, and a hostile, paranoid sadist, and rolling them all into one.
Characteristics of psychopathy
I doubted my perceptions and dismissed them. I dismissed the times when something he said seemed rehearsed, like he had said the very same thing many times before.
Alice’s trip into Wonderland would become curioser and curioser… just like our own trip into the reality-distortion field of the psychopath, a real-life Cheshire Cat with nothing at all behind his grin.
When we are seen as an object, we aren’t considered a separate, whole, real and meaningful person with our own thoughts, feelings and perceptions. We are simply an object with no meaning except to gratify desires.
I didn’t know it at the time, but my ‘soul mate’ was jonesing for some dopamine. The search for an intense dopamine high drives the psychopath’s ever-repeating cycle of idealize, devalue, discard.
When psychopaths pursue a target, are they motivated by genuine attraction, the desire to manipulate or something more?Neuropsychologist Rhonda Freeman, PhD, explains.
When psychopaths see an opportunity, they go for it. Since they’re opportunists, you can be targeted by one of them anywhere. But some places do present a higher risk than others.
Slip this unique high-tech, handcrafted ring onto your finger, and it begins to work. Perpetual motion design makes batteries obsolete. The only thing you need to do in addition to wearing the ring is to keep the instructions in mind at all times.
You fell down the rabbit hole. It never crossed your mind to question the things too good to be true, the things beyond imagination, the strange things. Why would you? They weren’t strange on that side of the looking glass — they were just part of the wonder of it all.
When targeted by a psychopath,
we unwittingly become an opponent in a game we don’t even know we’re playing. The stakes are high and the odds are stacked in their favor. They make the rules, and play to win.
Imagine you’re working in a maximum security psychiatric hospital that houses sexually motivated predatory stalkers who are in the Sexually Violent Predator Program. Most are diagnosed psychopaths.This would be enough to keep you and your coworkers from being manipulated, seduced, and victimized… right?
Nothing matters to psychopaths. Nothing has any inherent meaning, value, or worth to them. They live in a world of meaningless inanimate objects they care nothing about. Self-gratification is their only goal. That also describes zombies.
Can you tell who’s trustworthy or not, who’s a criminal, and who’s a narcissist or psychopath just by looking at someone’s face? Surprisingly, the answer may be “yes.”
It is said that psychopaths aren’t insane, because they have an absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking. Is this correct? Something about it doesn’t seem quite right.
Both are incredibly destructive to those unfortunate enough to become involved with them — but their thought processes, motivations, and intentions are as different as night and day.
Our own focus narrows, and we become oblivious to the world around us. Our sense of time is altered. Minutes seem like hours or hours seem like minutes. We are in a trance.
The thought of a bored psychopath is kind of scary. And yet the thought of a psychopath who isn’t bored is kind of scary, too. Seriously, though, psychopaths have a real problem with boredom. It hounds them continually, like the meaningless and destructive drive of an addiction.
For a psychopath, to know you is to hate you. You didn’t really do anything wrong (although he wants you to think you did). Likewise, you weren’t idealized for anything you truly were, only for what the psychopath imagined you to be. But you are a real person, not a product of the psychopath’s imagination.
The psychopath came along and fulfilled our desires by creating an illusory world of love, in order to enslave us and feed on us. We were existing in a matrix that the psychopath created, and we didn’t know it.
One kind of person who will surely not identify in a fixed way with anything about themselves is the psychopath. So why would they identify with a gender?
Behind the mask, female psychopaths are manipulative, cold-hearted, and lacking empathy, just like their male counterparts. Men who were once involved with psychopathic females tell their heartbreaking stories here.
The psychopath I was involved with sometimes made strange and disturbing facial expressions. These faces struck me as being uncanny, meaning they were both familiar yet alien at the same time.
The characteristics of psychopathy are divided into three groups: Cognitive (thought), affective (emotion), and behavior (actions). This list includes affective (emotional) characteristics of psychopathy. Again, these are things the psychopath tries to hide.
This post covers the characteristics of how a psychopath thinks. These traits aren’t visible at first, but will be revealed over time as you notice incongruities between his persona and who he really seems to be. The mask always cracks sooner or later.
There were so many strange things he said. Out of place. Out of context. Out of the blue. I had come to think of them as “Spaceship Moments.”
The truth is very difficult to understand from our own frame of reference. It’s important to understand it eventually, though, because it’s these differences that cause the harm we experience.
As I give it further thought, narcissists and psychopaths, in essence, can never really be self aware because they don’t have a Self to become aware of.
We automatically assume that others are just like we are when it comes to the fundamental aspects of our characters, such as having a conscience. That can be a dangerous mistake.
As I read all I could find about psychopathy, I found something was missing. A key piece of the puzzle seemed consistently absent. I wasn’t sure how much this missing piece even mattered, but it seemed important enough to ponder and search for, and finally to come up with a possibility of my own.
One day the psychopath I was involved with smiled broadly and said, “We get along great for two strangers, don’t we?” Strangers? I felt as if I’d been punched in the gut.
The mask a psychopath wears is only a superficial disguise, held in place by lies and manipulation. When we find out the truth — they were never who or what we believed them to be — the feelings of betrayal are overwhelming.
I’ve been asked the same question several times by people who read Red Flags of a Psychopath on this website: “This sounds like a description of a couple falling deeply in love. How is it different? How can I tell if it’s happening to me?”
It is a well-known fact that our society is structured like a pyramid. The very few people at the top create conditions for the majority below. Who are these people? Can we blame them for the problems our society faces today? What we found out is that people at the top are more likely to be psychopaths than the rest of us.
When a psychopath targets a victim, he lures her in a highly hypnotic way (along with using many other tactics of covert manipulation) to gain emotional control and then to keep it throughout the relationship.