Others Have It Worse Than Me: SELF-INVALIDATION Read More »
When others invalidate our feelings, it creates emotional distance. When we invalidate our own feelings, we create alienation from the self. We also create feelings of guilt and shame. Self-invalidation (and invalidation by others) makes recovery from depression and anxiety particularly difficult.
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Persistence of Memory: The Phenomenon of Intrusive Thoughts Read More »
“It feels like a thorn in my brain.” That’s how one reader described the intrusive thoughts that plague us long after a psychopath is out of our lives. I’m here to reassure you that the intrusive thoughts will eventually fade away.
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Why You? And How Did You Get Trapped? Read More »
If you can’t figure out what made you vulnerable or don’t believe you were, remember that it is our best qualities — our ability to give and receive love, to trust another enough to be intimate and vulnerable, and to believe in the goodness of another — that enable a psychopath to victimize us.
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Emotional Vampires: How To Keep Them Out of Your Life Read More »
At best, this man is a neurotic emotional vampire. At worse, he is a psychopathic or narcissistic emotional vampire. Either way, he’s an emotional vampire who will drain you dry and not care one bit, as long as his own needs are being met.
Emotional Vampires: How To Keep Them Out of Your Life Read More »
A Pearl of Truth and Wisdom Read More »
Love yourself. In what ways will you show yourself that love today? In what ways will you treat yourself kindly, lovingly, gently, and respectfully?
A Pearl of Truth and Wisdom Read More »
After the Psychopath: Moving From Fear to Confidence Read More »
Fear is part of the aftermath of trauma. The fear expands beyond the traumatic event that caused it, and we wonder, “what else might happen?” We are between places of safety, out in the open, seemingly without protection or defense.
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Convicted, Diagnosed and Institutionalized? Not Enough To Stop a Psychopath Read More »
Imagine you’re working in a maximum security psychiatric hospital that houses sexually motivated predatory stalkers who are in the Sexually Violent Predator Program. Most are diagnosed psychopaths.This would be enough to keep you and your coworkers from being manipulated, seduced, and victimized… right?
Convicted, Diagnosed and Institutionalized? Not Enough To Stop a Psychopath Read More »
Emotion or Logic? Three Ways to Have Them Both Read More »
How can we prevent love from ‘getting in the way’ of seeing reality clearly, trusting our perceptions, and looking out for our best interests? It comes down to three things.
Emotion or Logic? Three Ways to Have Them Both Read More »
The Real Reason You Were Victimized By a Psychopath Read More »
Shame is not your burden to carry. Neither is blame, from others or from yourself. What is there to feel shame for? Being a decent, loving and trusting human being?
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Never Trust Your Gut…Unless it Tells You to RUN Read More »
“Always trust your gut.” That’s what common wisdom tells us. We’ve got our built-in Spidey Sense working behind the scenes to protect us, if only we would listen. Or… maybe not.
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Do You Make This Simple (But Dangerous) Mistake About the Psychopathic Mind? Read More »
We automatically assume that others are just like we are when it comes to the fundamental aspects of our characters, such as having a conscience. That can be a dangerous mistake.
Do You Make This Simple (But Dangerous) Mistake About the Psychopathic Mind? Read More »
The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed Read More »
We’ve learned there are many things that leave us vulnerable to predatory manipulators. But no discussion of what may make us vulnerable is complete without revealing one vulnerability we all have, but that remains hidden from us.
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Psychopaths and Love, the Book, is Now Available Read More »
“If you have been the victim of a psychopath or you think you may be the next target of a psychopath, this book lays it all out for you. It is short, succinct, and gets right to the core of the predator.” J. Hunter
Psychopaths and Love, the Book, is Now Available Read More »
Traits of the Psychopath’s Victim Read More »
There are certain traits we may have that make us more likely to be victimized by psychopaths. This in no way suggests a victim is to blame — the predator is clearly the one to blame.
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How to Tell if You’re Being Manipulated Read More »
Emotional manipulation can be so subtle and undercover that it can control you for quite a while before you figure out what’s happening, if you ever do. Learn how.
How to Tell if You’re Being Manipulated Read More »
Vulnerability and the Psychopath Read More »
Psychopaths have an uncanny ability to look at a you and tell if you’re a potential victim, one who will easily succumb to their mind games and provide them with what they need.
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