Reality, Denied: GASLIGHTING Read More »
Using the tactic of gaslighting, the manipulator denies, and therefore invalidates, reality. Invalidating reality distorts or undermines your perceptions of your world.
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How To Never Get Involved with an Abuser Again Read More »
The two traits all abusive people have in common: They lack empathy and they are manipulative.
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Curiosity Killed the Cat: The Harbingers of Intuition Read More »
A harbinger foreshadows what is to come. That gives me a little shudder. These messengers of intuition are sometimes our only clue to some subtle red flag that slips by us.
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I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo! Read More »
Beware the unsolicited promise, which is often a warning sign of impending victimization that should never be ignored or believed.
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A Grin Without a Cat Read More »
Alice’s trip into Wonderland would become curioser and curioser… just like our own trip into the reality-distortion field of the psychopath, a real-life Cheshire Cat with nothing at all behind his grin.
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Objectification and Dehumanization in Abusive Relationships Read More »
When we are seen as an object, we aren’t considered a separate, whole, real and meaningful person with our own thoughts, feelings and perceptions. We are simply an object with no meaning except to gratify desires.
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Genuine Attraction, Manipulation or Something More? Dr. Rhonda Freeman Explains Read More »
When psychopaths pursue a target, are they motivated by genuine attraction, the desire to manipulate or something more?Neuropsychologist Rhonda Freeman, PhD, explains.
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Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING Read More »
Love bombing is an all-encompassing, exhaustive campaign of flattery that “bombs” the target with non-stop positive reinforcement.
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Greatest Hits, Vol. 1: How Can You Tell if You’re Being Manipulated? Read More »
You may have missed this post, but I wouldn’t want you to because it’s an important one. Even if you read it before, it’s worth a review. We all have some concern about getting involved with another manipulator, so we need to recognize manipulation as early as possible. This article will show you an easy way to do that.
Greatest Hits, Vol. 1: How Can You Tell if You’re Being Manipulated? Read More »
Psychopathy: Is It In Their Eyes? Read More »
Do a psychopath’s eyes give them away? Are they a reliable sign we can use to identify and avoid them?
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Manipulation: How Far Can It Go? Read More »
Many people were perplexed. What could possibly cause her to act so out of character? Manipulation, that’s what.
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Intensity or Intimacy? A Relationship Litmus Test Read More »
Intimacy has to do with trust, understanding, and feeling understood. Intensity, on the other hand, is all about drama, anxiety, uncertainty, and fear.
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Emotional Vampires: How To Keep Them Out of Your Life Read More »
At best, this man is a neurotic emotional vampire. At worse, he is a psychopathic or narcissistic emotional vampire. Either way, he’s an emotional vampire who will drain you dry and not care one bit, as long as his own needs are being met.
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Words are More Real Than Reality Read More »
Words are more real than reality. Of course they’re not really more real, but it sure seems that way sometimes. Manipulators know this; it’s how they’re able to do what they do.
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Invalidation: I Refuse to Have This Discussion! Read More »
Invalidation is considered one of the most damaging forms of emotional abuse. Abusers use invalidation as a tool of manipulation and a weapon. Others may be short on empathy. Some may feel uncomfortable with your pain. Some are simply jealous.
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We’ve all heard how hard it is to get out of a cult. It’s just as hard to get free of a cult of two.
DOUBT: Friend or Foe? Read More »
Your doubts exist for a reason. In a healthy relationship, it’s not usual to be consumed by uncertainty or to be left doubting yourself.
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Backed Into an Emotional Corner Read More »
When you’re backed into an emotional corner, acting out does not mean you’re crazy, and it does not make you the abuser. It means you’re a normal person pushed to your limits by a manipulator.
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Emergency: Self-Blame Read More »
It makes no sense to say we were manipulated and lied to by a predator, and then claim that we were responsible. Both cannot be true at the same time.
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The Most Powerful Motivator on the Planet: Intermittent Reinforcement Read More »
The moment when the joy at finding love turns into the fear of losing it is called the ‘manipulative shift.’ When that happens, the psychopath takes control. This is when the devaluation stage begins.
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Down the Rabbit Hole Read More »
You fell down the rabbit hole. It never crossed your mind to question the things too good to be true, the things beyond imagination, the strange things. Why would you? They weren’t strange on that side of the looking glass — they were just part of the wonder of it all.
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The Game You Didn’t Know You Were Playing Read More »
When targeted by a psychopath,
we unwittingly become an opponent in a game we don’t even know we’re playing. The stakes are high and the odds are stacked in their favor. They make the rules, and play to win.
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Convicted, Diagnosed and Institutionalized? Not Enough To Stop a Psychopath Read More »
Imagine you’re working in a maximum security psychiatric hospital that houses sexually motivated predatory stalkers who are in the Sexually Violent Predator Program. Most are diagnosed psychopaths.This would be enough to keep you and your coworkers from being manipulated, seduced, and victimized… right?
Convicted, Diagnosed and Institutionalized? Not Enough To Stop a Psychopath Read More »
Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test Read More »
Ask yourself: Am I free from fear? Free from shame? Free from uncertainty? Free from feelings of inadequacy that I didn’t have before? Free to express my emotions? Free to share my thoughts and opinions? Am I free to be myself?
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Hocus-Pocus: It’s All In the Focus Read More »
Our own focus narrows, and we become oblivious to the world around us. Our sense of time is altered. Minutes seem like hours or hours seem like minutes. We are in a trance.
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Shame: A Festering Wound of the Soul Read More »
What heals shame? “Empathy is the antidote to shame,” Brene’ Brown writes. “The two most powerful words when we’re in struggle: Me Too.”
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Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together Read More »
In the process of the psychopathic bond, the moment when the joy at finding love turns into the fear of losing it is called the ‘manipulative shift.’ When that happens, the psychopath takes control.
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Fox in the Hen House: The Dangers of Forums Read More »
Traumatized people are at their most vulnerable when they turn to online forums in search of support. Unfortunately, I’ve heard from people who were re-victimized, and I experienced it myself. It was the last thing I needed and it set me back.
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Psychopathic Seduction Secrets, Revealed! Read More »
Why is the seduction of the psychopath so powerful? Because it is the art of the con wrapped in the beautiful illusion of love.
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Walking Through the Shadow of the Uncanny Valley Read More »
The psychopath I was involved with sometimes made strange and disturbing facial expressions. These faces struck me as being uncanny, meaning they were both familiar yet alien at the same time.
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Never Trust Your Gut…Unless it Tells You to RUN Read More »
“Always trust your gut.” That’s what common wisdom tells us. We’ve got our built-in Spidey Sense working behind the scenes to protect us, if only we would listen. Or… maybe not.
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Falling Into a Parallel Universe Read More »
Psychopathy is the best-kept secret. Yet it’s also a wildly popular subject that intrigues a lot of people. Psychopathic characters pop up everywhere in movies, books, and TV — yet we hear close to nothing about psychopaths in personal, one-on-one relationships.
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The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed Read More »
We’ve learned there are many things that leave us vulnerable to predatory manipulators. But no discussion of what may make us vulnerable is complete without revealing one vulnerability we all have, but that remains hidden from us.
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Book Review: The Other Side of Charm: Your Memoir, by H.G. Beverly Read More »
I’ve read many books on the subject of psychopathic abuse, but none even comes close to exposing the diabolical minds of these predators or the harm suffered by their victims to the degree this book does.
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Soul Mates and Psychopaths Read More »
“Soul mates.” Those are the words victims use to describe the seemingly magical connection they felt in the beginning of a relationship with a psychopath.
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Psychopaths and Love, the Book, is Now Available Read More »
“If you have been the victim of a psychopath or you think you may be the next target of a psychopath, this book lays it all out for you. It is short, succinct, and gets right to the core of the predator.” J. Hunter
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The Mask of the Psychopath Read More »
The mask a psychopath wears is only a superficial disguise, held in place by lies and manipulation. When we find out the truth — they were never who or what we believed them to be — the feelings of betrayal are overwhelming.
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Charm and the Psychopath Read More »
The psychopath’s charm is the focus of a predator on his prey, adorned with a smile. Literally.
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How to Tell if You’re Being Manipulated Read More »
Emotional manipulation can be so subtle and undercover that it can control you for quite a while before you figure out what’s happening, if you ever do. Learn how.
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Psychopaths Use Trance and Hypnosis to Get and Keep Victims Read More »
When a psychopath targets a victim, he lures her in a highly hypnotic way (along with using many other tactics of covert manipulation) to gain emotional control and then to keep it throughout the relationship.
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The Three Most Powerful Words Should Never Be a Lie Read More »
In the case of the psychopath, “I love you” is always a lie because they aren’t capable of love. They use these words as a means to their own ends because they know the enormous power those words have over those of us who are capable of love.
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