Broken Hearts Can Surrender
It turns out that the members of this club are actually outstanding people who are able to love deeply and connect meaningfully,
Ramblings
Dark Night of the Collective Soul
What becomes of a society when the mad dogs take over? What becomes of us when morality has nothing to do with anything?
SAFE ZONE for Victims of Married Psychopaths
This website is a safe zone for those of you who were victimized by a married psychopath or narcissist, and also for those of you who were married when you were victimized. There is no judgement here.
MALIGNANT NARCISSISM: Even Worse Than It Sounds
A malignant narcissist is like taking a psychopath, a narcissist, and a hostile, paranoid sadist, and rolling them all into one.
Dark Night of the Soul: A Spiritual and Existential Crisis
Although it resembles depression—nothing makes sense anymore, there’s no purpose to anything—a dark night of the soul is a much different experience.
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Blue Christmas
The holidays can be can be a season of deep loneliness and sorrow for those of you who are are going through trauma and grief. The season can trigger deep sadness and a sense that you’re alone, even in a crowd.
MASS MANIPULATION: How Did it Happen?
At every turn, we hear words unbound by truth or logic. False arguments have replaced reason and rationality. Thoughts of Kafka and Orwell dance through our heads. It seems that reality itself has fallen down the rabbit hole.
Reasonable Facsimile
You were a reasonable facsimile.
Closer inspection revealed your leaking battery and rusted springs, plastic painted to resemble flesh, and an old watch ticking in place of a heart.
A Grin Without a Cat
Alice’s trip into Wonderland would become curioser and curioser… just like our own trip into the reality-distortion field of the psychopath, a real-life Cheshire Cat with nothing at all behind his grin.
The Psychopath: An Empty Boat
Understanding that psychopaths have a brain disorder that makes them act the way they do can help resolve anger, self-blame, doubt, and confusion.
You Are Not Your Thoughts: How METACOGNITION Can Help You Heal
You are not your thoughts, and just because you have a thought does not mean it’s real or true, or that you have to engage with it. Having thoughts–which happens automatically–is different from thinking.
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It’s Not You, It’s Me and My Hyper-Reactive Dopaminergic Reward System
I didn’t know it at the time, but my ‘soul mate’ was jonesing for some dopamine. The search for an intense dopamine high drives the psychopath’s ever-repeating cycle of idealize, devalue, discard.
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Psychopathic Medicine and The White Wall of Silence
Medicine’s white wall of silence keeps knowledge of a physician’s incompetence hidden from the public, while the physician continues to practice.
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You Are Born of Chaos and Stars, and Are Stronger and More Resilient Than You Know
Your very existence—your life, and you—are exceptionally rare and precious. The indestructible star–matter from which you are created is within you,
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First, Do No Harm: Abusive Psychotherapists
How can you tell if your therapist is crossing the line, or is engaging in poor therapy that is harming you or has the potential to do so? This post is not intended to scare anyone away from trying therapy. There are good therapists who are able to make a real difference in people’s lives.
Thoughts On the Eve of the New Year
May the light of love shine in and through each of us, every day of the New Year. Wishing you love, light and peace.
A Holiday Wish for You
Heartfelt holiday wishes, gratitude, and thanks to each of you, without whom this website would be nothing more than words written on the ether. They are only given meaning when they connect with you.
The Wizards of Id
It’s all about the id, the ego and the superego. Psychopaths, you see, are The Wizards of Id.
Psychopaths Are Boring. We Are Fascinating.
Psychopaths are boring. We are fascinating. How do we know this is true? 10 things they do make it obvious.
Warning Others: Will It Work?
Even if they did listen, they might not remember the warning. Why would it even cross their minds, when they’ve just met the most wonderful person?
Michelle Carter: Depraved Heart Murderer?
Conrad got out of the truck. He wasn’t sure he wanted to die. Michelle responded by ordering him to “get back in.”
Get Your Psychopath Decoder Ring, While Supplies Last!
Slip this unique high-tech, handcrafted ring onto your finger, and it begins to work. Perpetual motion design makes batteries obsolete. The only thing you need to do in addition to wearing the ring is to keep the instructions in mind at all times.
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Manipulation: How Far Can It Go?
Many people were perplexed. What could possibly cause her to act so out of character? Manipulation, that’s what.
Is He or Isn’t He? Why It Doesn’t Matter
I get many letters from readers who aren’t sure if their partner is a psychopath or not and want help figuring it out. Part of my response is “You’re asking for relationship advice on a website about psychopaths. That, in and of itself, indicates something is seriously wrong.”
Who Dares Conquer?
Slumbering, we stand within a dream. Above, below, and nothing in between. Alone amid a distant place, our backs are turned to beauty, and to grace.
The Known, the Unknown, and the Unknowable
The unknown is encountered in the midst of the known. It manifests within what is usual and familiar, and hides there. The unknown is the serpent in paradise.
Protect Your Most Valuable Asset — YOU
We can never be invulnerable to crime, unfortunately, but we can take steps to protect ourselves. What follows is a list of self-defense measures and resources for you to consider. It’s not an all-inclusive list by any means; it’s just a few ideas to get you started thinking about personal safety.
What Zombies Can Teach Us About Psychopaths
Nothing matters to psychopaths. Nothing has any inherent meaning, value, or worth to them. They live in a world of meaningless inanimate objects they care nothing about. Self-gratification is their only goal. That also describes zombies.
Face the Truth — What Can You Tell Just By Looking at Someone?
Can you tell who’s trustworthy or not, who’s a criminal, and who’s a narcissist or psychopath just by looking at someone’s face? Surprisingly, the answer may be “yes.”
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Is There a “Psycho” In a Psychopath?
It is said that psychopaths aren’t insane, because they have an absence of delusions and other signs of irrational thinking. Is this correct? Something about it doesn’t seem quite right.
Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together
In the process of the psychopathic bond, the moment when the joy at finding love turns into the fear of losing it is called the ‘manipulative shift.’ When that happens, the psychopath takes control.
Compassion For the Psychopath?
Even if they are afflicted with a neurobiological disorder, we are the ones who suffer because of it, not them. They experience contemptuous delight at the pain they purposely inflict upon us. They know right from wrong, but they don’t care. That does not inspire compassion.
Fox in the Hen House: The Dangers of Forums
Traumatized people are at their most vulnerable when they turn to online forums in search of support. Unfortunately, I’ve heard from people who were re-victimized, and I experienced it myself. It was the last thing I needed and it set me back.
What Ebola Can Teach Us About Psychopaths
We start to realize that something strange is happening beneath the surface, but we can’t pull back. Love keeps us in the hot zone.
A Hidden Fact of Psychopaths: They Have No Gender
One kind of person who will surely not identify in a fixed way with anything about themselves is the psychopath. So why would they identify with a gender?
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Walking Through the Shadow of the Uncanny Valley
The psychopath I was involved with sometimes made strange and disturbing facial expressions. These faces struck me as being uncanny, meaning they were both familiar yet alien at the same time.
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Spaceship Moments: Psychopaths Say the Darndest Things
There were so many strange things he said. Out of place. Out of context. Out of the blue. I had come to think of them as “Spaceship Moments.”
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The Missing Piece in the Puzzle of Psychopathy
As I read all I could find about psychopathy, I found something was missing. A key piece of the puzzle seemed consistently absent. I wasn’t sure how much this missing piece even mattered, but it seemed important enough to ponder and search for, and finally to come up with a possibility of my own.
Psychopaths are Not Supernatural Beings With Superpowers
It seemed at the time that I had been involved with a magician, or the devil himself. How else could he have done what he did?
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More Awe and Beauty
More awe and beauty to remind you that life is much more than what you can see right now. This may resonate with you in an unexpected way.
Let’s Take a Break for Beauty
Put aside all the ugliness for just 5 minutes, and instead witness a glimpse of the inexplicable beauty of life. There is just something about this video that captures it so well, at least for me. I hope it does for you, too.
“I Am Fishead,” A Documentary About Psychopathy
It is a well-known fact that our society is structured like a pyramid. The very few people at the top create conditions for the majority below. Who are these people? Can we blame them for the problems our society faces today? What we found out is that people at the top are more likely to be psychopaths than the rest of us.
Psychopaths are Not Cowards (It’s Much Worse Than that)
Psychopaths aren’t cowards; they’re just hungry. It’s as simple as that.
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Freedom From the Psychopath
One day, the psychopath will no longer have any power over you. He will “fall and sink in ruins” when you realize he never really stood strong, that it was all deception.
How to Help a Friend Victimized by a Psychopath
How can you help a friend who was victimized by a psychopath or going through any hard time in their life? By having empathy. Judging someone’s feelings, finding them to be invalid and then withholding support, is the opposite of empathy.