“Self love, self respect, self worth – all interlinked and vital.”

~ Jane Thorne

Self respect can be in short supply after being manipulated, abused and devalued by a psychopath. Losing our self respect stems from the feeling that we compromised our own values, dignity and boundaries.

Self respect means “to hold in honor” and goes hand-in-hand with self-worth, which is valuing your inherent worth as a person. A strong sense of self-worth is necessary in order to attain peace, joy, love, empowerment and a sound mind. Instead, you may be experiencing blame, shame, anger, guilt, regret, fear and self doubt.

You can regain your self respect. It is imperative that you do whatever it takes to restore it. When you do, your sense of self worth will follow. Losing something can really make you appreciate it more than you ever did before. Now you can have sturdy self respect and a strong sense of self-worth, and cherish and protect them.


Having self respect is to honor yourself as a person and to accept yourself regardless of your life circumstances. Self-compassion can help you do just that and it’s is far more powerful than judging yourself harshly, which only adds to your injury. It is self-kindness as opposed to self-judgement.

We are all a work in progress, but we’re worth loving and respecting just as we are now. That’s the truth, not feel-good nonsense, and I can prove it: You understand how abusive relationships work now. If your closest friend were to become involved in one, would you lose respect for her? Would you treat her so harshly that her sense of self-worth was crushed? Probably not. Then why should you lose respect for yourself? Become your own best friend — it can be your greatest strength.

“It is a beautiful experience being with ourselves at a level of complete acceptance. When that begins to happen, when you give up resistance and needing to be perfect, a peace will come over you as you have never known.”

~ Ruth Fishel, The Journey Within

Another potent — and vital! — way to restore your self-respect is to develop personal boundaries and to protect them. In the field of psychology, authenticity means living in accordance with your values, beliefs, desires and needs. That’s how your self respect is expressed to others. And that’s exactly what boundaries enable you to do.

Boundaries are self respect put into action.

“He that respects himself is safe from others; He wears a coat of mail that none can pierce.”

~ Henry Wadsworth Longfellow

  To Thine Own Self Be True

~  William Shakespeare

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