Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together

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Creating fear is the best way to set someone up for manipulation.

Fear is a primal human state. It begins in childhood. Even if no real danger exists, we fear monsters hiding under the bed or in the closet.

Fear robs us of our ability to think rationally. Psychopaths (who themselves do not experience fear) know this, and they use it to great effect — not only in relationships, but in societies.

Kaci Hickox, Hero and Political PawnKaci Hickox, Hero and Political Pawn


What got me thinking about fear

is the debacle of hysteria surrounding the Ebola virus — in particular, the events surrounding nurse Kaci Hickox’s return from the hot zone — and the very scary places that fear is leading us. It is not Ebola we should fear — it is fear we should fear, because it makes us soft in the head.

When we’re afraid, whether that fear is real or imagined, we want to return to safety. When we believe someone can do that, we sigh with relief instead of thinking critically about what’s really going on.

Irrational fear has been building in the US as misinformation and ignorance about Ebola causes panic. Many people believe that infected  but asymptomatic people can spread the disease to the public by riding planes, buses, and subways, going bowling, or going out to dinner, even though there is absolutely no factual basis for it.

In response to that irrational fear,

the governors of NJ and NY saw an opportunity for personal gain instead of an opportunity for education. They started talking about mandatory quarantines for health workers returning from West Africa. The advice of health experts was disregarded as they announced they would be the ones who would protect us. Even though experts said there was no risk to the public, it was better to be safe than sorry, right?

Gov. Chris Christie
Gov. Chris Christie

Just as Kaci Hickox arrived at an airport in NJ, Chris Christie — governor of NJ — put his ill-conceived plan into action. Kaci was stopped at customs, interrogated, and held for several hours. Then, she was transported by an ambulance escorted by eight police cars with lights flashing and sirens blaring (unbelievable but true) to a hospital where she would be detained for 21 days. But she wasn’t even taken INTO the hospital — oh no, it had to be more dramatic than that. She was put in a tent — yes, a TENT — without running water, which meant no shower or flushing toilet. Her belongings were taken and she was given paper clothing. For two days, she was denied access to an attorney.

When Kaci spoke out in complaint, the comments about her were shocking: Kaci was a prima dona and a selfish bitch who should just shut up and deal with it. Some hoped she would die.

kaci held in a tent

Kaci Hickox, unlawfully detained


Last I heard,

even murderers get flushing toilets, cloth garments and access to an attorney. But this health professional — who received a joint master’s degree from the Johns Hopkins schools of Public Health and Nursing — wasn’t deemed worthy of those things. We know that if we stop the spread of Ebola in Africa it also stops the spread to other places, which makes it a matter of national security. No different than a soldier, Kaci went to the front lines of a horrific battle and put her own life on the line to stop the threat.

But what she returned to was hardly the hero’s welcome she deserved.



I’ve been an RN since 1985, and I’ve also learned a thing or two about manipulation, so I saw the truth of what was happening in all its gory detail. It was both fascinating and terrifying. I was pretty sure her detention wouldn’t stand, since coercive measures like mandatory quarantine of people exhibiting no symptoms of an illness, and when not medically necessary, raise serious constitutional concerns about the state abusing its powers. But you never know.

When people are afraid, strange and terrible things can happen.

The overwhelming support for her illegal detainment was staggering.

The general public seemed to think it was great. Chris Christie was keeping them safe from selfish and dangerous public health professionals like her, whom he said ‘could not be trusted’ to self-monitor and take action at the first sign of symptoms. He was keeping the public safe from these horribly selfish people who couldn’t care less about the public’s health (even though they were public health professionals) — it was more important for them to go bowling, and they had to be stopped. After all, we can see just how selfish these people are, as evidenced by their selfless service to desperately ill people in a situation most of us would consider hell on earth… right? If the governor says so, then it must be true. When we’re afraid, a manipulator can talk us out of the truth we see right in front of us. Words become more real than reality. 

Christie said he was “sorry she was ill” and hoped she’d recover soon, even though she was not ill. He even said she was “obviously ill,” even though she wasn’t. She did not have a fever and a blood test for Ebola was negative. He said he was “sorry for the inconvenience,” but he had to keep the public safe. He knows the power of a few well-chosen words and phrases that will stick in the public’s mind. What a manipulator.

Govs Christie And Cuomo Discuss Security Protocols Against Terrorism

The governor who forcibly detained a citizen without cause said he “had no remorse” and would do it again. When someone tells you something about themselves, believe it.


What this self-serving ‘public servant’ was really doing was using the public’s fear to gain political power.


He wasn’t really keeping anyone safe, and he knew it. He was manipulating them for personal gain, with his eye on the 2016 presidential election.

For personal gain, he exploited the public’s fear. He not only  exploited it — he actually made it worse. I mean, there must be an incredible threat involved when a person in an ambulance requires an escort of eight flashing, blaring squad cars, and when that person must be detained in deplorable conditions, right? This person could be infected with a disease, but she was way too dangerous to  even enter a hospital. That’s where sick people usually go, so if she can’t go there, she must be very dangerous...

Kaci was presented as pariah who was not even worthy of any respect at all from her own society. So if this disease was such an incredible threat, by default that meant Christie was the one protecting people from it. The truth is that he created the whole thing.

For personal gain, he stripped a US citizen of her freedom and civil rights by forcibly detaining her for no justifiable reason and denying her access to an attorney. (I have to pause here and take a few deep breaths. I hope you do, too.)

For personal gain, he undermined the public’s trust in healthcare professionals by saying they could not be trusted to monitor themselves, and he undermined the public’s trust in public health officials and science when he told us we couldn’t believe what they told us about the virus. There is no substitute for that trust. If state officials undermine trust, then they destroy the best weapon available to control Ebola — good science. But the governor implied that he was the only one who was worthy of trust, and he was the only one who could keep us safe.

How amazing is it that all of this happened right before our eyes, but so many didn’t see what was really going on? Never underestimate the power of fear to prime us for manipulation.

Fear makes us blind and irrational. There are many examples throughout history. One that came to mind when I saw Kaci in a tent was Japanese internment camps during WWII, a low point for the U.S.

When Kaci was freed from her illegal detention, Gov. Christie said he had “no remorse.” He said he would do it again. And he added the condescending remark that “one day she will come to understand,” just to invalidate and devalue her a little bit more.

Kaci went home to Maine, where she was supposed to comply with a voluntary quarantine by isolating herself in her home. She refused. She knew she wouldn’t pose a threat to the public, and she was not going to stand for a violation of her civil rights. The governor of Maine said he would do “everything in his power” to enforce it, but as it turns out, that wasn’t much. A judge ruled that she could not be forcibly quarantined because there was no legally or medically justifiable reason to do so.

The illusion of love

The illusion of love is followed by the fear of losing it


I started to compare this whole fiasco to the personal experience of being victimized by a psychopath, and I realized this:

That’s exactly what happened to us when we were involved in a ‘relationship’ with a psychopath. In the process of the psychopathic bond, the moment when the joy at finding love turns into the fear of losing it is called the ‘manipulative shift.’ When that happens, the psychopath takes control.

We think love is what makes us vulnerable, but it’s actually the fear of losing that love that puts us most at risk.

In order to manipulate us, the psychopath had to cause fear. In order to cause fear, he had to first create the illusion of love. But fear was the key to our downfall.

Fear takes away our ability to think clearly. It causes us to give our power away to someone else if we believe they can remove the threat. When we see someone as being ‘the one’ who is able to take our fear away, we will give them just about anything. And we won’t even realize it while it’s happening.

When we were fearful of losing our relationship with the psychopath, by default he became the only one who could remove that fear. That made us hand him all of our power and give him complete control.

I’ve come to the conclusion that fear should be considered a major ‘red flag’ that we might be involved with a psychopath. The next time we’re in a relationship and we feel fearful of losing it, we need to let that alert us to the fact that something is seriously wrong. We also need to remember that we can’t think clearly when we feel fear. We need to pause and look at our fear by carefully observing reality.

If we don’t do these things we will give up our freedom and our power, and we will come to regret it.






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52 thoughts on “Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together”

  1. Joe

    Another absolutely brilliant article – we need more people with your talent in the world as our ‘town crier’ – the rest of us cannot crystallize these consistencies in writing (or even verbally at times!) as well as you do.. please keep them coming..! You are helping people immensely when you point out that the bane of our and every society – psychopaths, the ones that control the populations of the world and the ones that live among the population -destroying families and lives and even drive very giving and empathetic people, who could make a huge positive difference in our society, to suicide or to live the remainder of their lives isolated and/or even with serious PTSD symptoms. It’s time we expose all of these men and women and learn their tactics and allow them to have a taste of isolation and watch them squirm in sheer boredom (no victims to play with or feed their need to consume souls) for the rest of their lives.

    1. Admin

      Wow, thank you so much, Joe!

      I don’t ‘crystallize these consistencies’ UNTIL I write them, so it helps me just as much as it does anyone else. Prior to writing, everything’s just a jumble of vague ideas searching for a connection.

      I hope Gov. Christie will be very, very bored when his political career is destroyed from the actions he took in this situation. I usually don’t talk about non-relationship things here, but it’s all connected. Plus it just really pissed me off.

  2. Kristine Slough

    This is so true! Thanks for such a great article. I have left my psychopath but even when we were splitting up, I really wanted him back because I was afraid of what I was going to do without his “love”. Now that he has been gone for a few months I can see the manipulation tactics he used. He knew what he was doing! Please keep the blogs coming.

    1. Admin

      I’m glad you liked the article.

      What you say is true; once we have some time apart, we can see what was really happening. That’s why no contact is so important. Thanks for your comment!

  3. Nomorepsychos4me

    Very well written. I completely agree–fears often convolute rational thinking.

    1. Admin

      Thank you. I remember so well how my fear of losing him made me unable to think rationally. My mind was so busy trying to figure out what I was doing wrong and how to change it that I missed what I really needed to know. Live and learn.

  4. Hope

    Thank you for making this so clear. I have a short memory and make the mistake of feeling sad again. I need constant reminders like this to keep me on the right path.

    1. Admin

      Constant reminders are good. Our memories tend to be short in the beginning, but they get much longer over time. Best wishes to you.

  5. Depressedempath

    Thank you for another “light bulb” article. So true! I was not so much scared of losing him, but scared of being alone and that no one else would want me. He had me convinced at this “devaluation” stage that I was a selfish, overly defensive screw up that only he would put up with. I hit rock bottom, even called Lifeline and sought help from my Dr. And a psychologist. No one could help me though, which caused the psycho to gleefully dig his claws in more deeply.

    1. Admin

      It’s hard to get those claws out. But in time (without contact), the claws lose their grip.

      When we’re afraid of the dark, turning on the light is the best thing. There are many things that can’t survive in the light of reality, and they go slithering back into a dark corner where they belong.

  6. Ann

    Iv always known that fear is a very negative emotion, but its connection to manipulation is something i never really thought about. This post brings so much clarity on the subject . I will write down some of it so that it sticks in my head. Know that you are a light for us in the darkness. Also i want to thank you for sending your book Boundaries in pdf form. It has helped me tremendously. I feel more confident everyday and i owe a lot of that to you.

    1. Admin

      Thanks so much, Ann. I’m truly glad that it helps.

  7. Joyce M. Short- Author, Carnal Abuse by Deceit

    What we experience as the fear of losing someone can result from the addictive quality of bruin chemistry. Just like an alcoholic craves a drink when they attempt to abstain, we crave the source that supplied our fix of oxytocin, seratonin and dopamine. Because we don’t imbibe neurotransmitters, we don’t recognize the affect they have on our thinking. But our brain chemistry, or loss thereof, is what keeps us seeking the attachment.

    Just like an alcoholic has to convince themself that the benefits of abstinence outweighs the harm of indulging, so do we when we try to break the bonds of a toxic relationship.

    I loved Admin’s comparison with the “trust” generating behavior of Christie. Trusting stems from oxytocin. Charlatans are good at building our trust so that we feel attached. How many voters did Christie buy with this performance at the poor woman’s expense?

    In a romantic relationship, instead of breaking the bond when reality hits, we react with a craving and longing for the way we felt, and deny the facts that could be staring us right in the face. Our brain functions in a state of bewilderment, wanting to believe, but also sensing the loss that will result if we don’t.

    Mother Nature created us to remain partnered to best protect and nurture our slow-to-develop children. Being the “smartest” animal on the planet, we take an inordinate length of time to mature. So the chemistry that binds us as parents needed to be strong. Unfortunately, she didn’t take into account that the same brain chemistry that makes us socially intertwined beings can become our undoing when the person we mate with is a sociopath.

    1. Admin

      Hi, Joyce.

      Brain chemistry really does play a huge part in all of it. It goes a lot deeper than we know, and it’s hard to break that bond. A lot of it happens simply with time.

      Yes, all that trust-generating — and trust-destroying — behavior Christie displayed really got to me. I hope he didn’t buy any votes, but of course I know otherwise.

  8. Nearlybel

    Thanks Admin, you ( again) have articulated what I couldn’t and let me make more sense of my behaviour. When I ‘discovered’ he was an abuser ( psychopath unheard of at this stage) I was in a terrible state trying to keep children and me safe, mediation, court, and still living in same house. I was very conscious of trying to get strong, 30 minutes exercise per day on wii fit, we always ate well, but my daughter cooked cos I was unable. But I was so scared, I was petrified, my sleep all upset from nightmares. And the realisation I had been in fear of him for 20 years, afraid of saying and doing something that displeased him ( no matter what we did it displeased him) and not realising that it was him brought me to the brink of contemplating suicide 7 years ago I didn’t, but I did get my hip sorted and was free of that pain and that started ‘something’.
    But when I discovered what he was in those early days, to prove I wasn’t afraid I would go out in the mornings to the wood and walk the dogs at 5 am in the dark, in with the trees and all the night creatures. I did this consciously to conquer the fear, the fear I didn’t even knew I had, the fear he had created for me.
    Wow what an article, just when I thought I’d ‘got it’ you come up with another angle to illuminate even more. Thank you Admin xxx

    1. Admin

      You’re very brave to have walked your dogs in the dark woods to overcome fear. I remember well those first weeks after it was over — I was scared to take mine out even when the sun was shining! Of course I did because I had to, but I was constantly looking over my shoulder. My reaction was out of proportion to any threat, but it was caused by trauma.

      Thank goodness you didn’t kill yourself! Your light shines bright, and without it the world would be a darker place.

  9. Nearlybel

    ‘There’s nothing in life to be feared, only to be understood’
    I have just heard this on the radio in relation to mental health, yeah! for 20 years I tried to understand, when I was in deep deep fear and didn’t even ‘know’ it. Topsy turvey is so right Admin, I can so appreciate the genius of CS Lewis Alice in Wonderland, there are clues, we just have to see them.
    All good luck and best wishes to Kaci. xxx

    1. Admin

      “There’s nothing in life to be feared, only to be understood”
      I love that, so much truth in it.
      It’s amazing that we can live in fear and not know it…it just becomes the norm. That’s a very sad norm! ToPSy tUrVEy, that’s what they do to our world, and it’s a reflection of what’s inside them.

      I love Alice in Wonderland…clues…hmmm……I have a feeling this will turn into a blog post……

  10. Admin

    ***REALITY ~ Your comment was on the home page, so I moved it here. That’s why it’s got my avatar.

    dear admin.

    this is one of the most brilliant posts that i have ever read in the topic of psycopathy. It is great the way that you manage to concey your understanding about how the psycopaths use first love and then fear in order to manipulate their victims in their constant seeking for personal gain ( power and contr0l) . Congratulations!!! Since some months and after having realised the whole dynamic of the psycopathic encounter , i also can see how these patterns work not only into the one to one relationships but also in society , politics e.t.c. For me it is like a curtain has been teared apart and now i can see the reality so so clearly that i feel like before having experienced the whole psycopathic ordeal i had been like blind. And it is so frustrating for me to see that the majority of the people are so blindshighted still and so easily manipulated. But how can i blame them? I ,myself have been the same ignorant in an intellectual level about the presense of consciensless people in this planet even though in an intuitive , subconscious level i could almost always sense them very well. This ignorance of the people is what the psycopaths or other secretive manipulators prey on. Sometimes i feel like a lion in the cave that i can not shout enough to make people really see what is lying underneath the coverage of cetain situations.

    These days i pass through a dificult phase after an encounter that i had with the psycopath due to proffesional issues. He again has tried to manipulate me with fake words about his so strong feelings and attachement to me and blah , blah, blah… I broke his teeth for another time by expressing exactly what i believe about him and that never i will be compliant even if this costs me a lot in terms of my proffesional project. Of course his reaction after this was as always stonewalling, but i do not care anymore since long ago. For a moment i started to feel anxiety about the possible negatives outcomes that this could have in my work but soon i decided that i am not going to let fear rule me and my behavior towards him. I am going to be as real and straightheaded to him as i have always been with everybody in my life even this means that i have to pay bad price in practical things. I am not going to compromise who i am and what i believe under the fear of any consequenses that he could impose to me.
    Reading this post of yours strengthened more my desicion. And you know, i feel inside me that the reason that he continues to act like this towards me is closely connected to the fact that he knows that he will never be able to control me. This must burns him a litlle, psycopathic OUCH.. the scum…
    I do not know if this terrible ( and so so ugly..) governor Christie is a real psycopath or just an empty headed ampitious moron. I avoid to make diagnosis , but for sure he adopts all the usual tactics of a psycopath in power. He is so disgusting and so dangerous. I hope that more and more people can be more aware about these covert manipuilative tactics in politics and society and they can deny power to those who use them.
    I would like to say so much more dear Admin on this subject but i am pressured these days due to work issues, so my self contemplation comes out as a little messy. Also i want to comment about your prevous post about compassion and the psycopath . It was great also. i hope to find some time to do it.

    thank you so much for your precious contribution with all your wisdom first to me as single individual and then to the society in general .


    1. Admin

      Thanks so much, Reality.

      “For me it is like a curtain has been teared apart and now i can see the reality so so clearly that i feel like before having experienced the whole psycopathic ordeal i had been like blind.” I feel the same, and have heard this from others. I think I will have to write a blog post about it!

      “I am not going to compromise who i am and what i believe under the fear of any consequenses that he could impose to me.” This is great advice for all of us in our future relationships.

      “he knows that he will never be able to control me. This must burns him a little” It probably burns him a LOT.

      “I do not know if this terrible ( and so so ugly..) governor Christie is a real psycopath or just an empty headed ampitious moron.” Me either, but he does have some of the traits, that’s why I called him ‘psychopathic’ rather than ‘a psychopath.’ But many politicians are psychopathic, which is not surprising. And I agree, he is NOT ‘easy on the eyes,’ as they say. In fact, I can’t stand to look at him. It goes deeper than his looks — he just seems to have something ugly emanating from inside of him.

      And his WIFE is inexplicable…look at what a phony she is in the pics below, she is smiling while the governor yells at a school teacher who opposed budget cuts, because she knows she’s being photographed…but it’s so creepy and inauthentic!

      Here’s a photo I’m sure he’s not proud of:

      Blechhhh, that’s enough.

  11. Nearlybel

    Your post reality brought a tear to my eyes, thanks Admin for placing it where it should be :) it is so important that we speak the truth, be who we are, without fear.
    But the psychopaths amongst us, :( I have 3 biological children by one ( all safe with me) and I exposed 4 ( marriage of 15 yrs) of my children to his abuse. They contaminate all who they come in contact with.
    I saw everything through his eyes, what did their young minds see? It is just soooo AWFUL to think what, and he looks, ‘normal’, not to me now, I can see his ugliness in technicolor, black! But he is still receiving succour from his family. Yuk
    The children are now free to ‘be’, to conform and/or be their own kooky selfs, whatever they wish, without that dark cloud of psychopathy that hung around even when he wasn’t physically there. Yuk yuk. Before I met him, I thought I was a good judge of character and I feared nothing, I was the one to put her head above the parapet, to challenge unjust authority, to speak out and argue. I was an activist, stood on picket lines, organised colleagues, gave information, had been pushed and shoved, shouted and spat at for standing with ‘unpopular’ causes, Thats where I met him and he was so helpful!!!! Yuk yuk yuk And for 20 years he conned, lied, deceived and abused me and my children, and he did that through MY FEAR of him, Admin you are just so WONDERFUL. Thank you xxx

    1. Admin

      Thank you xxx

      So glad you and the kids are free to be!

  12. janes

    i have a few comments about this article and the last a few of them. i ve been swamped by a few things also i ve been reading your Boundaries book:))
    soon when i have some time to articulate my take on the recent articles in a coherent way i will be bombarding you with lots of comments.
    i miss typing away lol
    hope all is well with everyone

    1. Admin

      See you soon, janes!

      I will give you a quiz when you’re done with the book.

      1. janes

        sounds great !
        i bet i ll be more Psmart afterwards :)

        1. Admin

          I hope so :)

  13. Rose

    Very disappointed that u mix ur political views with assumed facts, Ebola is so new everyone is still not sure of all the factual data. Just because this nurse returned from west africa treating patients doesn’t make her an expert. I happen to agree with the Governor’s decision and feel the nurse is being reckless and irresponsible with other people’s lives. Her actions are selfish and arrogent! Please stick to ur area of expertise (psychopathy) and let the CDC and the Government stick to their area of expertise.

    You have good articles on psychopathy! Please stay in ur area of expertise!
    As a

    1. Admin

      Ummm…Rose? I did write about psychopathy. Did you miss that?

      If so, you should ask yourself what happened. You might want to read the article again, because you just proved my point instead of getting my point.

      Here’s a little question for you to ponder:

      Since you support a mandatory quarantine of 21 days, why do you think it should be 21 days? And why does the governor think it should be 21 days?

      The reason I ask is that 21 days is what scientists and medical experts have concluded is the maximum incubation period. Yes, the very same scientists who tell us that the virus is not transmissible until someone is clearly symptomatic.

      Why do you trust them on one thing but not the other? You DID say Ebola is ‘so new that no one’s sure about the facts.’ In that case, perhaps we should quarantine people for 42, 84 or 168 days to be really, really, really sure that there’s no risk.

      Instead of getting defensive, THINK about it. If you can’t, you might want to ask yourself what’s getting between you and your ability to do so.

  14. aurora

    Hi there,
    I agree with Joe – you have crystallized a load of information in this post that is very informative and illuminating. These lunatics are everywhere! It becomes so frustrating once you have the illusions removed and start seeing instances of this sort of behaviour everywhere, in all walks of life. Once I started thinking more about this topic and my own situation I realised that the psychopath I was involved with actually was able to manipulate a whole lot of my fears – THAT I DIDNT EVEN KNOW I HAD! How ugly is that? Like some twisted evil vine with toxic tentacles slowly imperceptibly wrapping around me until I was completely strangled and stuck in a vortex of fear. Like he had reached right into my subconscious and pulled out all the dark, fractured and vulnerable places – and then run amok using this against me. Stuck emotionally, physically, psychologically. Just abject terror – didn’t even feel safe in myself. That realisation made me so angry – but in a good way – just another example of the multiple levels they wreak havoc, and how difficult healing from this type of abuse is. Thank you again for posting such a great piece.

    1. Admin

      Thanks, Aurora. I realized the same thing — the psychopath manipulated a lot of my fears — when I discovered this fear/manipulation link. He created so much fear that even after it was over, I was left with a “free-floating” fear, just like someone with general anxiety disorder just has a pervasive sense of anxiety that isn’t linked to anything in particular. I think a lot of people have this free-floating sense of fear because of all the threats that hum in the background — ISIS, Ebola, etc. etc. etc.

      But something I find fascinating is how the government and the media condition us as to what we should fear.

      Here’s just one example: Recently, in West Virginia, 300,000 people were left without water because their supply had been poisoned with a dangerous chemical. At first, terrorism was suspected, and people were nervous. When it was found that the contamination was ‘just’ industrial waste, everyone (except those affected) breathed a sign of relief and forgot about it. Curious, isn’t it? They use our fear to advance their economic agenda, and we don’t see it. We’re not afraid of the things that really should bring great concern and that really do affect our lives on a regular basis.

      Loved your metaphor about the twisted evil vine. That’s a great description.

      The psychopath I knew made me angry ‘in a good way,’ too. Anger has a lot of energy to it, and the best thing is to direct that toward healing and growth. My feeling was, “who the hell does this creep think he is that he can destroy me and my life? No f’ing way!” That’s what pulled me out and got me moving forward.

  15. Depressedempath

    Hear hear Admin!
    Rose, I work in a large hospital and it seems you are not well informed on the facts about Ebola. It is not a new virus, but has been in existence for decades! It is just that the recent outbreak is the largest so far and with frequent travel and overseas aid workers, we are getting hysterical about it. Ebola is less contagious than many other viruses. You generally have to contact copious volumes of the infected persons body fluids. With the common cold and flu viruses, we often don’t know “who” gave it to us. This is not so with Ebola. You would remember contact with the transmitter. The incubation period is actually less than 21 days. The 21 days has been
    intentionally chosen outside the incubation time limit as a precaution, so waiting greater than that time to see symptoms appear is ridiculous.
    Putting the facts of Ebola aside, please re read Admin’s blog and see it for what it is….the facts of a psychopath..

    1. Admin

      Thank you very much. It’s good to hear a voice of reason.

      What I’ve realized is that people who are being irrational can’t see it, because the (mistaken) beliefs they hold make their attitude seem perfectly rational to them. If they believe “no one knows the facts about Ebola,” then naturally they would be fearful. But there is something perplexing about it — it doesn’t seem to matter what evidence you present to them, they hold fast to their erroneous ideas. I guess it comes down to who they trust. We all know the trouble we can get into when we trust the wrong person.

      I’m pretty sure that Rose is a troll (they write comments for the sole purpose of irritating someone, and her words were definitely designed to irritate), but I replied to it just in case my answer might help others who are scared for no real reason.

      Thanks for backing me up :-)

  16. efemeris

    as if the nurse whould have been alowed to travel back home upon testing positive. she says herself that she’d take right measures if she’d ever felt sick. politicians, regardless if psychopathic or narcissistic, have shown very bad performance when it comes to social security, health insurance and health care laws. bad organization, no leadership and purely trained staff with low working ethics. beyond the mistakes that you have mentioned that Chrissie did, i’d also mention the huge financial drain that such thoughtless actions cause. just like the health care reform in the past few years. good thing about me is that i was working in the intensive care unit for 7 years, so i could confront Chrissie too. i already confronted someone else regarding his health care plan. :P

    1. Admin

      Hi efemeris.

      I think you could work in the ICU for 100 years, and confronting Christie would do no good.

      That’s a good point — quarantines are expensive. The military will be quarantining everyone who deploys to West Africa, even though they won’t have any contact with Ebola patients. They’re doing this only to gain the support of the public. But people don’t know that, and all it’s doing is confusing them even more.

      I think it’s pretty obvious now, even without being informed about Ebola, that the virus isn’t passed through casual contact. No one on planes, subway trains, or anywhere else has come down with it. Even Mr. Duncan’s family didn’t catch it, and he was quite ill by the time the hospital took him seriously enough to admit him (poor man), and even though they were then locked up (quarantined) in the apartment filled with potential sources of infection (not a very good idea; a real genius must have come up with that one). The virus is only a risk to health care workers and other caregivers who come into contact with the patient when they’re very ill and highly infectious, producing literal geysers and floods of all types of body fluids.

      How anyone could trust a politician more than the ebola experts — scientists, doctors, etc — is beyond me. As you said, they’ve shown some very bad performance.

      1. efemeris

        in my homeland there is a saying “don’t be afraid of a dog that barks, but the one who is silent.”

        i support Kaci Hickox’s decission to take legal action. she is handling the issue with the media very well and she’ll do it well in the court too.

        1. Admin

          I support her, too. Unfortunately, it seems most people don’t. I think the governor’s devaluation had its intended effect.

  17. janes

    Dear Admin,
    i am ready for your Boundries Book test this weekend. Bring it on !
    Btw, i luv, luv your Titles
    also i love the debate between you & Efemeris on similarities between Ps & Greek Gods/Goddesses!
    I am jelous that i havent been able to catch up with comments.

    1. Admin

      With amazement, I read your book review on Amazon. Thank you so very much! If even half of it is true, you are officially exempt from the very grueling test I had planned for you. Seriously, I’m very happy to hear you liked the book so much and I hope it will help you even more than you said it will.

      Hoping you will be able to catch up soon!

  18. janes

    i’ve just read the debate with Rose.
    Even though i agree with & admire Admin , i think Rose had an angle there too.
    both side of the Political isle seem like Ps everywhere in the world.
    I applaud Admin for letting Roses voice heard & Rose feeling safe /loved / supported on the Admins blog.

    1. Admin

      When someone makes me feel ‘safe, loved, and supported,’ I return it to them. I fail to see anything loving and supportive in Rose’s words to me. In fact, I clearly see the opposite. A bunch of fabricated vitriol, with a left-handed compliment thrown in to confuse things, doesn’t confuse me at all.

      You worry me, janes!

  19. janes

    i realy dont understand the mind games some of your readers play, in this case it seems like Rose.
    you & i are diffrent thats what must be worring you
    we look at things from diffrent dimmentions
    we admire things about each other & we have diffent gifts
    you have great instincts, follow them they will lead you to truth
    Always with Love

    1. Admin

      ‘Rose’ does not exist. It is a troll. I get many comments like this.

      Instead of telling me outright that my content threatens them and they want me to stop writing (which of course would do no good), they try to undermine me by pretending to be a victim and weaving insults within their comments, both overt and between the lines, and hope I’ll get discouraged and give up. When you’ve done this for a while, they start to stick out like a sore thumb.

      And you know what? You start to realize these people really aren’t so smart after all.

      I usually delete them, but sometimes I like to have a little fun (as long as I believe the comments won’t harm anyone). If I didn’t enjoy this, all of it, I wouldn’t be here. It can actually be quite a bit of fun, and it’s a chance to hone my instincts. If I’m not sure someone is a troll, I’ll treat them as an actual reader until they reveal themselves. If they exchange a few comments with me and then I figure them out, it’s apparently a big thrill for them. Whatever. It doesn’t slow me down. In fact, it inspires me.

      Always with love, janes.

      1. Depressedempath

        That is it. Janes was sucked in by Rose just as we were all sucked in by the Psychopath. There is evil everywhere, trying to manipulate our souls and we sometimes don’t even realise it until pointed out! We all need to be on our guard at all times.
        Thanks for your words of reason Admin

        1. Admin

          We just don’t see it in certain contexts. Not until our eyes are opened. Makes me wonder what else we’re totally unaware of. Kind of like that gorilla video in one of my posts a while back. I still wonder how I watched that video and never saw a gorilla walk right through the middle of it! After knowing it was there, you can’t miss it. But before that? There was no gorilla…at least I didn’t see one…but it was there.

  20. janes

    they fool me every time!
    that is why i am obseesed about this subject
    it looks like i am still struggling with ABCs of Ps
    omg i am lol :))
    thanks for the explanation
    Stand Tall

    1. Admin

      It’s not that you’re struggling — it’s just that you don’t deal with it in this context.

      Everything is a learning experience. ‘Live and learn,’ as the saying goes.

      I’m standing tall. In fact, I think I’ve grown at least an inch in the past 2 years…


  21. janes

    for give me Admin i have sinned LOL :))
    i feel ashamed (your next article )

    “Only one of my students understood me & even he/she missunderstood me” David Hume
    ” The Truth Springs From Arguments Amongst Friends” David Hume

    i asked a fellow Thriver ( a conservative supporter) to translate.
    he told me immediately after he read the whole article & comments, that all you were showing was the Macro P operation as oppossed to our usual Micro P operations which is our everyday entanglements with them.
    i also finished your recomendation Emotional Rape Book it has confirmed my presumtion was wrong along with my friends insight, just me seeing a Politicians picture.
    All this article shows is one of the recent example of higher altitude mass P operation.

    1. Admin

      I had no clue as to what your cryptic words meant until I realized you were talking about the last article — Fear & Manipulation :)

      I used that particular example of the Macro-P operation of exploiting fear because that’s what led me to the insight about fear on the Micro P-level of our personal entanglements with them. Instead of just talking about it on a ‘micro’ level, I figured that if that example helped me to understand the link, it would help others. Unfortunately, now I think the divisiveness of the issue may have caused some to tune out and miss the point. The oyster was slimy and ugly, so they tossed it out and never found the pearl.

      “i also finished your recommendation Emotional Rape Book it has confirmed my presumption was wrong along with my friends insight, just me seeing a Politicians picture.” I’m not clear about what you’re saying here, how this relates to the book about emotional rape?

      1. janes

        in the Emotional Rape book there is a section about Macro p operations

        1. janes

          Got u Admin
          i love the Oyster quote !

        2. Admin

          Ah, now I get it. I read it so long ago that I forgot that was part of the book.

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