What is a psychopath?
Psychopaths are social predators, both male and female, who do not have a conscience or the ability to feel love, compassion, fear or remorse. It is believed that psychopathy is a genetic neurobiological disorder.
“Psychopathy refers to a pathological personality disposition that involves charm, manipulation, and ruthless exploitation of others. Psychopathic persons are lacking in conscience and feeling for others; they selfishly take what they want and do as they please without the slightest sense of guilt or regret.” (Hare, Neumann, & Widiger, 2012)
The psychopath considers life a game to be played and “won” at the expense of others. Inflicting harm, whether it be psychological, spiritual, physical or financial, is acceptable to them.
Self-gratification is the only thing that motivates them and all that they live for.
Psychopaths play their game primarily to fulfill their insatiable desires for power and control. They also play to meet their secondary needs for things like sex, money, prestige, a mother for their children…or even for children to molest. Psychopaths derive pleasure from their victim’s suffering. While this is incomprehensible to normal humans, it’s just life as usual for the psychopath.
Psychopaths are pathological liars who will say anything to get what they want.
With traits like these, you’d never expect a psychopath to be charming, but they are often extraordinarily so.
Psychopaths wear what’s called “the mask of sanity,”
which hides the truth that lies beneath. The Mask allows them to move through society undetected. They’re smooth talkers with a lot to say. They’re totally relaxed since they have no fear or anxiety, and this makes others around them relax. Strong social skills are their predatory edge; these skills bring the psychopath into contact with many potential victims, and make these “targets” comfortable and open to contact.
Just when you need your intuition to alert you to danger, it will be disarmed by the psychopath.
Psychopaths and love are an impossible combination. They aren’t able to experience love, and they consider it a weakness that creates vulnerability that they can use to their advantage. These predators gain a victim’s trust and love and then involve them in devastating sham relationships that inevitably result in serious harm.
Psychopaths feel contempt for normal human emotions. We show our humanness in the form of true love, insecurity, fear, remorse, trust and anxiety, and they consider these emotions unforgivable weaknesses, vulnerabilities that make us easy targets for manipulation, and deserving of it!
Victims are manipulated into trying to suppress any display of these emotions that disgust the psychopath, but that’s not possible. They leak out one way or another, igniting the psychopath’s contempt. In other words, there is no way to establish an intimate relationship with a psychopath. He will despise you, guaranteed…but keep using you anyway as long as you have something he wants.
Psychopaths establish a relationship with a target based on a hidden agenda from day one, the only goal being victimization. They are human predators who completely hide their real identities and create a tailor-made persona to gain the trust and love of their victim so they can dominate, control and manipulate them.
They do establish seemingly normal, positive relationships with some people for the purpose of developing a good reputation that covers up their victimization of vulnerable others. Many psychopaths are respected and well-liked members of their community because of this.
Seeing that the psychopath is well-liked makes the victim more trusting, and when or if the victim finds out the truth and comes forward, the psychopath is strongly supported by all those who think he’s nice as pie. Meanwhile, the victim gets no support or validation, by design — she was probably an unknown, new to the community or in some way a marginalized member, which is why he targeted her in the first place.
The psychopath knows right from wrong, but doesn’t care.
The psychopath is a cunning and intelligent “intraspecies predator,” according to Dr. Robert Hare, psychopathy researcher and author of Without Conscience.
If you’re targeted and lured into love with a psychopath, you’ll be left in ruins while he or she goes on to the next victim. There is no easy way to detect them, but awareness may help.
Psychopaths are cunning and calculating predators.
Some go for a vulnerable person who is lonely and/or has experienced multiple life stressors, such as an illness, a death in the family, or unemployment; this is the easy target. Others like more of a challenge. No one is immune. Psychopaths are adept shape-shifters and changelings able to read their prey like a book. They figure out exactly what you need and they cut the master key that disarms all of your defenses.
There are 1 – 2 psychopaths per 100 people in the population, according to estimates. And they get around. One psychopath can wreak havoc on many through serial “romantic” relationships. It doesn’t take long for the psychopath to inflict harm, and he can move swiftly and simultaneously among many victims. He can also keep one victim for a long period while having many more on the side. Some maintain a marriage to give the illusion of normalcy. Many psychopaths feast greedily on a banquet of easy targets while taking the time necessary to break down the defenses of more challenging ones.
Psychopaths are notoriously hypersexual and promiscuous; at any one time they may be having sex with their main victim while juggling a few other regulars, having one-night stands with people of either sex, and hiring prostitutes. Psychopaths are most likely to be those who continue to have unprotected sex despite knowing they are HIV positive.
When you’ve met someone who you believe is your soul mate and the love of your life, it’s not usually the time you think of danger or want consider taking things slowly. After all, this is someone you love and trust. But this is exactly when you need to keep your eyes open and think critically about who this person really is and what they really want. Unfortunately, feeling someone is your soul mate is one big red warning flag, because psychopaths are able to so perfectly mirror your needs and desires. This conundrum is precisely why so many jump headfirst and wholeheartedly into relationships with psychopaths. What starts out as heaven will turn into hell.
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