If you live each day
accepting these truths about yourself
and keeping them in mind…
and you commit yourself to protecting them…
and use them to measure the health of your relationships…
You will not find yourself
being taken for granted, used, invalidated,
disrespected, devalued or manipulated
You were born with normal human emotional needs
you have the right to be in
mutually fulfilling relationships that meet these needs:
The need to be loved.
The need to be valued.
The need to be trusted.
The need to feel worthy.
The need to be accepted.
The need to be listened to.
The need to be supported.
The need to be respected.
The need to be understood.
The need to be appreciated.
The need to be acknowledged.
The need to feel capable and competent.
The need to feel clear (and not confused).
The need to be safe, both physically and emotionally.
You were born with these basic human rights
they still belong to you today:
You have the right to say no.
You have the right to make mistakes.
You have the right to change your mind.
You have the right to ask for what you want.
You have the right to express your opinions.
You have the right to be listened to respectfully.
You have the right to change your life situation.
You have the right to choose how you live your life.
You have the right to decide what your priorities are.
You have the right to have your boundaries respected.
You have the right to choose who you share your body with.
You have the right to choose who you spend your time with.
You have the right to set limits on how you will be treated by others.
You have the right to experience your feelings and to express them, if you want to.
You have the right to walk away from relationships that you determine are not good for you.
You have the right to be treated with dignity and respect by everyone you come into contact with.
You have the right to your own needs and feelings, and to have them be as important as anyone else’s.
You also have the right to have these basic human rights, and you have the right to stand up for them.
You deserve nothing less.
Yes, you—despite what anyone has ever told you,
and despite whatever you’ve experienced in your life that seems to tell you otherwise.
You deserve nothing less.
Anyone who truly values, respects, loves and cares for you will give you nothing less,
and they will expect nothing less from you.
Accept no excuses.
((((( Never Forget )))))
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