Fear, Hatred and Superstition VS Empowerment

Fear, Hatred and Superstition VS Empowerment

Early on in my trauma, I felt incredibly and unbearably vulnerable. And I hated the psychopath I’d been involved with. In fact, I hated all psychopaths. I feared them, too. They terrified me. I felt there might be one lurking behind every bush and every smiling...
Psychopathic Medicine and The White Wall of Silence

Psychopathic Medicine and The White Wall of Silence

  Today I’m deviating from the subject of psychopaths and love, and delving instead into psychopaths and medicine, for good reason: so you can protect yourself and your loved ones when you seek medical care. Law enforcement is known for having a “blue...
Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Never let anyone get away with manipulating you again. Empower yourself! Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on the problem. Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded...
Self-Respect: The Key to Everything

Self-Respect: The Key to Everything

“Self love, self respect, self worth – all interlinked and vital.” ~ Jane Thorne Self respect can be in short supply after being manipulated, abused and devalued by a psychopath. Losing our self respect stems from the feeling that we compromised our own...
Protect Your Most Valuable Asset — YOU

Protect Your Most Valuable Asset — YOU

There was a time, not so long ago or far away, when “psychopathic predator” was not on my mental list of Things That Could Possibly Go Wrong. It never entered my awareness, so there was no way I could have expected it or prepared myself to deal with it. It...
Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

The very first thing I felt after the psychopath discarded me was absolute and utter relief.   I remember the long, deep breath I took, and the feeling of my entire body relaxing. This feeling of relief was quickly overpowered by other emotions, but I will never...
The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed

The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed

We’ve learned there are many things that leave us vulnerable to predatory manipulators. But no discussion of what may make us vulnerable is complete without revealing one vulnerability we all have, but that remains hidden from us. We see others and the world...
Advice for Dealing with a Violent Ex

Advice for Dealing with a Violent Ex

 Recently I got a comment from a terrified reader with a violent ex, who didn’t know where to turn. She wrote, “Two years ago I found out I was pregnant with our second child. Let me tell you, it does NOT get better. During that pregnancy, I endured abuse...
How to Avoid a Relationship with a Psychopath

How to Avoid a Relationship with a Psychopath

When we’re imagining our ideal relationship, no one thinks: “I want to be in an unhappy relationship with a person who is only out to dominate and humiliate me, and who will use me for sex and entertainment along the way. Ideally, he’ll be someone who has no respect...
Traits of the Psychopath’s Victim

Traits of the Psychopath’s Victim

  Do you have traits that make you vulnerable to psychopathic manipulation? There are certain traits we may have that make us more likely to be victimized by psychopaths. This in no way suggests a victim is to blame — the predator is clearly the one to...
Vulnerability and the Psychopath

Vulnerability and the Psychopath

Psychopaths can easily spot a vulnerable person. They have an uncanny ability to look at a you and tell if you’re a potential victim, one who will easily succumb to their mind games and provide them with what they need. Vulnerability is defined as being “capable...