I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!

I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!

“I promise you, I’m no gigolo!”   The psychopath I was involved with said that to me one night, out of nowhere. As it turned out, he was absolutely a gigolo. Even worse, a psychopathic one. His promise was broken. Beware the Unsolicited Promise,...
11 Places Psychopaths Hunt

11 Places Psychopaths Hunt

Where do psychopaths hunt, and how do they do it? How you can avoid becoming their prey? When psychopaths see an opportunity, they go for it. Since they’re opportunists, you can be targeted by one of them anywhere. But some places do present a higher risk than...
DOUBT: Friend or Foe?

DOUBT: Friend or Foe?

Doubt is the main theme when involved with a psychopath. They are the embodiment of duplicity, contradiction, and confusion. The whole charade exists under the shadow of doubt. Doubt permeates it like a thick fog blanketing a city. It seeps through the tiniest cracks,...
Backed Into an Emotional Corner

Backed Into an Emotional Corner

You always overreact! You’re unstable! You have a problem with anger!  You’re… CRAZY!  C hances are good that you were accused of at least a few of these things if you were involved with a manipulator. A psychopath will say such things after...
Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

The very first thing I felt after the psychopath discarded me was absolute and utter relief.   I remember the long, deep breath I took, and the feeling of my entire body relaxing. This feeling of relief was quickly overpowered by other emotions, but I will never...
Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together

Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together

Creating fear is the best way to set someone up for manipulation.   Fear is a primal human state. It begins in childhood. Even if no real danger exists, we fear monsters hiding under the bed or in the closet. Fear robs us of our ability to think rationally....
Walking Through the Shadow of the Uncanny Valley

Walking Through the Shadow of the Uncanny Valley

     The psychopath I was involved with sometimes made strange and disturbing facial expressions.  A sad face with the corners of his mouth turned up just a little too much. A high-voltage smile that would have blown every transformer in town if he were hooked up...
Soul Mates and Psychopaths

Soul Mates and Psychopaths

“Soul mates.” Those are the words victims use to describe the seemingly magical connection they felt in the beginning of a relationship with a psychopath. I didn’t even believe in the concept of soul mates, so I was doubly surprised and amazed when I...
Charm and the Psychopath

Charm and the Psychopath

One mustn’t look into the abyss, because there is at the bottom an inexplicable charm which attracts us. ~ Gustave Flaubert Charm. What is it, and why is the charm of the psychopath so powerful?  I’m not sure where the following description of charm came...
How to Tell if You’re Being Manipulated

How to Tell if You’re Being Manipulated

Emotional manipulation can be so subtle and undercover, it can control you for quite a while before you figure out what’s happening, if you ever do. Some manipulators are highly skilled. They’re described by some as puppet masters, and you could become an...