Fear, Hatred and Superstition VS Empowerment

Fear, Hatred and Superstition VS Empowerment

Early on in my trauma, I felt incredibly and unbearably vulnerable. And I hated the psychopath I’d been involved with. In fact, I hated all psychopaths. I feared them, too. They terrified me. I felt there might be one lurking behind every bush and every smiling...
I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!

I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!

“I promise you, I’m no gigolo!”   The psychopath I was involved with said that to me one night, out of nowhere. As it turned out, he was absolutely a gigolo. Even worse, a psychopathic one. His promise was broken. Beware the Unsolicited Promise,...
Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING

Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING

You’ve finally found “the one.” Your relationship seems otherworldly, and your emotional high is so high it feels as if you’ve taken a potent, euphoria-inducing drug. You believe you’ve found your soulmate and can’t believe your good...
Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Never let anyone get away with manipulating you again. Empower yourself! Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on the problem. Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded...
11 Places Psychopaths Hunt

11 Places Psychopaths Hunt

Where do psychopaths hunt, and how do they do it? How you can avoid becoming their prey? When psychopaths see an opportunity, they go for it. Since they’re opportunists, you can be targeted by one of them anywhere. But some places do present a higher risk than...
Why You? And How Did You Get Trapped?

Why You? And How Did You Get Trapped?

“Why me? And how did I get trapped?” ~ A Reader   All of us asked ourselves these questions. It’s important to try and answer them. Why you? Psychopaths can sense who will be receptive.  What made you receptive? The answer to that question is...
Self-Respect: The Key to Everything

Self-Respect: The Key to Everything

“Self love, self respect, self worth – all interlinked and vital.” ~ Jane Thorne Self respect can be in short supply after being manipulated, abused and devalued by a psychopath. Losing our self respect stems from the feeling that we compromised our own...
Protect Your Most Valuable Asset — YOU

Protect Your Most Valuable Asset — YOU

There was a time, not so long ago or far away, when “psychopathic predator” was not on my mental list of Things That Could Possibly Go Wrong. It never entered my awareness, so there was no way I could have expected it or prepared myself to deal with it. It...
Emotion or Logic? Three Ways to Have Them Both

Emotion or Logic? Three Ways to Have Them Both

About a year after my experience of being involved with a psychopath, I had a conversation with an acquaintance about dating and trust. He said that when he was much younger, he had begun dating a woman he was enamored with. He said he admired what he saw as her...
Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

Freedom: The Ultimate Relationship Litmus Test

The very first thing I felt after the psychopath discarded me was absolute and utter relief.   I remember the long, deep breath I took, and the feeling of my entire body relaxing. This feeling of relief was quickly overpowered by other emotions, but I will never...
The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed

The Hidden Vulnerability We All Have, Revealed

We’ve learned there are many things that leave us vulnerable to predatory manipulators. But no discussion of what may make us vulnerable is complete without revealing one vulnerability we all have, but that remains hidden from us. We see others and the world...