Reality, Denied: GASLIGHTING

Reality, Denied: GASLIGHTING

“I NEVER said that!”  (my psychopathic ex) The entire “relationship” with my psychopathic ex was one long episode of gaslighting, as they are for all of us. “Gaslighting” is a term commonly used to describe behavior that is inherently...
I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!

I Promise You, I’m No Gigolo!

“I promise you, I’m no gigolo!”   The psychopath I was involved with said that to me one night, out of nowhere. As it turned out, he was absolutely a gigolo. Even worse, a psychopathic one. His promise was broken. Beware the Unsolicited Promise,...
Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING

Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING

You’ve finally found “the one.” Your relationship seems otherworldly, and your emotional high is so high it feels as if you’ve taken a potent, euphoria-inducing drug. You believe you’ve found your soulmate and can’t believe your good...
Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Never let anyone get away with manipulating you again. Empower yourself! Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on the problem. Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded...
Words are More Real Than Reality

Words are More Real Than Reality

“The basic tool for the manipulation of reality is the manipulation of words.” – Phillip Dick Words are more real than reality. Of course they’re not really more real, but it sure seems that way sometimes. Manipulators know this; it’s how...
Invalidation: I Refuse to Have This Discussion!

Invalidation: I Refuse to Have This Discussion!

“When we invalidate people or deny their perceptions and personal experiences, we make mental invalids of them. When one’s feelings are denied a person can be made to feel crazy even when they are perfectly mentally healthy.” (R.D. Laing, MD, psychiatrist)...
The Cult of Two

The Cult of Two

“Power is in tearing human minds to pieces and putting them together again in new shapes of your own choosing.” ~ George Orwell, 1984 That quote describes perfectly the radical psychological process of brainwashing. A person involved with a psychopath was manipulated,...
Backed Into an Emotional Corner

Backed Into an Emotional Corner

You always overreact! You’re unstable! You have a problem with anger!  You’re… CRAZY!  C hances are good that you were accused of at least a few of these things if you were involved with a manipulator. A psychopath will say such things after...
The Game You Didn’t Know You Were Playing

The Game You Didn’t Know You Were Playing

When targeted by a psychopath, we unwittingly become an opponent in a game we don’t even know we’re playing. The stakes are high and the odds are stacked in their favor. They make the rules, and play to win. How could they lose, with such unfair...
Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together

Fear and Manipulation: Perfect Together

Creating fear is the best way to set someone up for manipulation.   Fear is a primal human state. It begins in childhood. Even if no real danger exists, we fear monsters hiding under the bed or in the closet. Fear robs us of our ability to think rationally....
Soul Mates and Psychopaths

Soul Mates and Psychopaths

“Soul mates.” Those are the words victims use to describe the seemingly magical connection they felt in the beginning of a relationship with a psychopath. I didn’t even believe in the concept of soul mates, so I was doubly surprised and amazed when I...