In the Aftermath: GRIEF

In the Aftermath: GRIEF

The person you loved—maybe more than you ever loved anyone before—and who loved you just as much, is gone from your life, never to return. Of course you’re grieving. But wait a minute, you tell yourself. You shouldn’t be grieving because you...
Others Have It Worse Than Me: SELF-INVALIDATION

Others Have It Worse Than Me: SELF-INVALIDATION

When I was small my mother told me, “Finish your dinner! There are children starving in Africa.” I promptly suggested that we box up my dinner, along with some of the food in the pantry, and send it to them. After all, how was finishing my dinner going to...
EMPATHY: What It Is and Why You Need It

EMPATHY: What It Is and Why You Need It

  “One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient.” (Charles M. Blow)   Many of you reading this have been involved with someone who had no empathy, and you have experienced the harm...
Invalidation: I Refuse to Have This Discussion!

Invalidation: I Refuse to Have This Discussion!

“When we invalidate people or deny their perceptions and personal experiences, we make mental invalids of them. When one’s feelings are denied a person can be made to feel crazy even when they are perfectly mentally healthy.” (R.D. Laing, MD, psychiatrist)...
Falling Into a Parallel Universe

Falling Into a Parallel Universe

Psychopathy is the best-kept secret.  It’s a wildly popular subject, and it has been for a while. Psychopathic characters pop up everywhere. They’re portrayed in movies and on TV. Best-selling books are written about them. In reams of articles, we hear...