Forgiveness: The Other F-Word

Forgiveness: The Other F-Word

You can probably tell by the title that I’m not an advocate of forgiving ruthless predators who victimize without remorse and who will keep doing so. If you have chosen to forgive and it helps you heal, that’s great. This blog post is for those of you who...
Angry? There’s a Reason for That

Angry? There’s a Reason for That

“Anger is never without a reason, but seldom with a good one.” ~ Benjamin Franklin That passes as good advice? I don’t believe it should. Anger is a universal emotion that exists for a reason. Yes, sometimes it’s unwarranted, but it’s up...
DOUBT: Friend or Foe?

DOUBT: Friend or Foe?

Doubt is the main theme when involved with a psychopath. They are the embodiment of duplicity, contradiction, and confusion. The whole charade exists under the shadow of doubt. Doubt permeates it like a thick fog blanketing a city. It seeps through the tiniest cracks,...
Emergency: Self-Blame

Emergency: Self-Blame

Self-Blame is the subject of this ’emergency’ blog post. I heard from a reader a couple of days ago who put the issue of self-blame front and center in my thoughts. Self-blame lurks in many of the comments written here, and although I’ve talked about...
Emotion or Logic? Three Ways to Have Them Both

Emotion or Logic? Three Ways to Have Them Both

About a year after my experience of being involved with a psychopath, I had a conversation with an acquaintance about dating and trust. He said that when he was much younger, he had begun dating a woman he was enamored with. He said he admired what he saw as her...
How to Avoid a Relationship with a Psychopath

How to Avoid a Relationship with a Psychopath

When we’re imagining our ideal relationship, no one thinks: “I want to be in an unhappy relationship with a person who is only out to dominate and humiliate me, and who will use me for sex and entertainment along the way. Ideally, he’ll be someone who has no respect...