Psychopathic Medicine and The White Wall of Silence

Psychopathic Medicine and The White Wall of Silence

  Today I’m deviating from the subject of psychopaths and love, and delving instead into psychopaths and medicine, for good reason: so you can protect yourself and your loved ones when you seek medical care. Law enforcement is known for having a “blue...
Feeling Crazy? Unstable? Unhinged?

Feeling Crazy? Unstable? Unhinged?

If you weren’t “crazy,” unstable or *borderline before you were involved with an abusive manipulator, chances are good that you aren’t now. But after being blamed and called crazy by the abuser, disbelieved by family and friends, and perhaps...
Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING

Love Not Bombs: LOVE BOMBING

You’ve finally found “the one.” Your relationship seems otherworldly, and your emotional high is so high it feels as if you’ve taken a potent, euphoria-inducing drug. You believe you’ve found your soulmate and can’t believe your good...
First, Do No Harm: Abusive Psychotherapists

First, Do No Harm: Abusive Psychotherapists

ALL IMAGES IN THIS POST ARE BY CDD20 | 愚木混株| SHANGHAI, CHINA   When reaching out for help after an abusive relationship, some people end up being re-traumatized by a therapist. Others sustained their initial trauma from an abusive therapist. Recently, I heard...
Others Have It Worse Than Me: SELF-INVALIDATION

Others Have It Worse Than Me: SELF-INVALIDATION

When I was small my mother told me, “Finish your dinner! There are children starving in Africa.” I promptly suggested that we box up my dinner, along with some of the food in the pantry, and send it to them. After all, how was finishing my dinner going to...
Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Knowledge is Power: Never Be Manipulated Again

Never let anyone get away with manipulating you again. Empower yourself! Identifying covert emotional manipulation is tricky. You sense something is wrong, but you can’t quite put your finger on the problem. Covert emotional manipulation tactics are underhanded...
Thoughts On the Eve of the New Year

Thoughts On the Eve of the New Year

May you have peace of mind in the midst of uncertainty, love to replace your fear, an absolute faith in yourself, a deep understanding of your true worth, the strength to meet your challenges, the resilience to heal, dear friends who truly know and love you, an open...
A Holiday Wish for You

A Holiday Wish for You

  Heartfelt holiday wishes, gratitude and thanks to each of you, without whom this website would be nothing more than words written on the ether. They are only given meaning when they connect with you.  May the holidays and the coming year bring you...
Into the Mirror… and Out Again

Into the Mirror… and Out Again

  Psychopaths know they have to hide what they truly are in order to win your heart. A psychopath knows you would not want anything to do with him or her if they didn’t. And when they’re trying to trap you, who do they pretend to be? You. That...
The Wizards of Id

The Wizards of Id

Follow the yellow brick road Follow the yellow brick road Follow the rainbow over the stream Follow the fellow who follows a dream…   When we inadvertently followed a psychopath down their yellow brick road, Emerald City isn’t what we found at the...
Psychopaths Are Boring. We Are Fascinating.

Psychopaths Are Boring. We Are Fascinating.

Psychopaths are boring. We are fascinating.   How do we know this is true?   They’re in constant pursuit of us, while we try to do everything we can to stay away from them.   They have to play games with us because they have nothing real to offer....
EMPATHY: What It Is and Why You Need It

EMPATHY: What It Is and Why You Need It

  “One doesn’t have to operate with great malice to do great harm. The absence of empathy and understanding are sufficient.” (Charles M. Blow)   Many of you reading this have been involved with someone who had no empathy, and you have experienced the harm...
Psychopathy… Or Asperger’s Syndrome?

Psychopathy… Or Asperger’s Syndrome?

“Talking with my ex-husband is like smashing my head against a wall or drowning in a river. We were not speaking the same language and misunderstandings were the rule. I learned the hard way what Asperger Syndrome was.” ~ Anonymous...
Psychopathy: Is It In Their Eyes?

Psychopathy: Is It In Their Eyes?

“It’s their eyes that are the most remarkable feature. How they drill into you.” (Dr. Robert Hare, psychopathy expert)   Do a psychopath’s eyes give them away? Are they a reliable sign we can use to identify and avoid them? The answer might just...
Hallelujah! The Peace and Healing of Acceptance

Hallelujah! The Peace and Healing of Acceptance

“It is so. It cannot be otherwise.” ~ Inscription on the Ruins of a 15th Century Cathedral in Amsterdam   What is acceptance? And how can it help you heal from the trauma of psychopathic victimization? Acceptance is, put simply, the acknowledgement of reality....
Want To Reclaim Your Power? Re-Write Your Story!

Want To Reclaim Your Power? Re-Write Your Story!

“It is by going down into the abyss that we recover the treasures of life. Where you stumble, there lies your treasure.” (Joseph Campbell) There is a difference between what happened and the story you tell yourself about it. The facts can’t be changed, but the...
Warning Others: Will It Work?

Warning Others: Will It Work?

“Thank God I’m not the only one, but what can we do as a collective to warn people about these sick individuals so they don’t keep harming others?” ~ A comment from a reader   Her question is a good one. None of us were warned about the...
Michelle Carter: Depraved Heart Murderer?

Michelle Carter: Depraved Heart Murderer?

“You always say you’re gonna do it, but you never do. I just want to make sure tonight is the real thing.” (Michelle Carter)   UPDATE: On Friday, June 16, 2017, Michelle Carter, now 20, was found guilty of involuntary manslaughter. She will be...